So, let me start here, ds3 is 3 months, EBF, unvaxed, and a perfectly happy and healthy babe. However last Sun at church someone let him "chew on" her thumb. I gently said to ds, "that's yucky dude, chew your own thumb" so she quickly removed her finger from his mouth. Well, a few days later he gets a fever, and it got pretty high, (102.4 for a 3 months old) but he's over it now. Idk if it was related at all to the stranger finger in the mouth or not...
So now today, I'm at MILs for a family birthday party, and MIL is holding him so I run to the bathroom, when I come out, she's feeding him strawberry icing off her finger! I was beyond pissed! I took the plate away from her and set it on the table and said "nana!!!" She goes "don't be mad mom, it was only a little taste, and he really wanted it" then she told DH she didn't really think about it till after she did it, but my sister was right there and witnessed the whole thing and said she looked right at her before she did it and said "shhh".
So this pissed me off on so many levels. 1) she did it behind my back cuz she knows how I feel, and did it anyway. Which is undermining. 2) she lied. 3) she did the exact same thing to ds2 when he was 3months too, only it was a tootsie pop. Bad track record. I feel like I can't trust her!
Also, now I'm sorta worried about the fever returning becuz of how sugar impacts the immune system, and the finger in his mouth.
Idk what I'm really looking for here. Just needing to vent I guess.
Do u think I'm being to harsh or irrational here?