We found an unlicensed in-her-home babysitter. She is the parent of a former student of mine. We really like her style, she is affordable, and she is literally less than a block from my work. Seems perfect! We have been talking back and forth for many months about care for my daughter. I never directly asked if she required vaxxes, bc I figured that would be unwise. I did, however, ask things like, "under what circumstances would you exclude a child" and "are there any reasons why you might ask a child to leave." I thought these types of questions might bring out the vax issue if she had one.
We went for a visit this past week. My DD got along great with the other kids and we made the decision to send her there starting late August. I emailed the sitter with some final questions yesterday, one of which was "what do you need from us before she can start?" -another veiled attempt to see if there was a vax requirement. Well, I just checked my email while letting the dogs out. Bad idea. . .she replied that she needed proof of her being up-to-date on her shots! Now, I'm so anxious and upset that I can't go back to sleep!
So, my questions. . .
How should I proceed with her? She is unlicensed, so I assume she isn't required to ask for vaxxes, that it is her preference. Should I ask for an exemption? Does she have to grant me one, or can she do what she wants since she is private/unlicensed? (We are in Oregon.)
Her child goes to the school where I teach and it is a tight knit community, so I worry a little bit about coming out as a "non vaccinator" to my student's families, but this isn't my biggest concern.
Moving forward, say I need to find another provider (ugh,) should I do like this time and not mention it up front, or should I just ask about the vax policy right away?
This is my first issue with not vaccinating and it is so upsetting! I have a little bit of a hard time remembering that most people vaccinate - it seems like by now, most people would know better (haha) so I find it surprising when people do. I guess that's what I get for living in my own little world!!