Originally Posted by zjande
What I hear 100% of the time when I say that I have 7 children is "you look way too young to have that many kids". And then they nearly burst from shock when they ask about their ages and I have to tell them I have a 21 yr old. Flattering for sure, but honestly soo embarrassing.
LOL, I get that a lot, too. I'm only 32, and I look younger. I remember once when someone introduced me at church, and mentioned how many kids I had, and the person I was being introduced to said, "Whoa, I thought you were in the youth group!" That was about five years ago. People have also told me I look too thin to have kids, which is hilarious to me because I'm about fifty pounds heavier than I was when I had my first.
Most people are just shocked. They'll ask me to repeat how many kids I have a bunch of times. I get a lot of, "You must have your hands full," "I could never do that," and "Don't you know what causes that?" My DH likes to answer that last one -- in detail. :P He's made more than one person regret asking. Sometimes I pre-empt that question by saying, "We got a TV for the bedroom, but it hasn't helped!" (My grandfather used to always joke that we needed a TV in the bedroom.) That leads to the inevitable, "Stop watching THOSE channels!" jokes. Once I did get pretty irritated when I was introduced to one of my husband's friends, and the first thing he said to me was, "Haven't you ever heard of birth control?"
All of my friends are very supportive, even though none of them have more than three. Most of them will tell people how great our kids are, and lie and say we're terrific parents. :P One of my best friends does joke that she won't drink from the same glass as my husband, but it's good natured. My in-laws are also really great. My MIL admitted that she thinks we're crazy, but all she cares about is loving on her grandchildren. My family, OTOH... When I announced #4, my grandmother told me that she was praying I wouldn't get pregnant (we'd let them know when we were TTC) and that four children would put me in an asylum. My mother asks me way too often when I'm going to "get that taken care of" (ie, get fixed).
I have gotten some bad comments from strangers. Once, I was buying cigarettes for my husband and I got carded. I joked to the woman behind the counter that I hoped I was old enough to buy cigarettes, because I was about to have my fourth child. She was shocked, and told me that, "If you were MY daughter, I'd kill you!" Shortly after that I was talking about needing a bigger car, and someone said that to be my age and have four kids there "must be something wrong" with me. (That was online, and a bunch of people who knew me came to my defense.) Finally, when I took my kids to the Renaissance Festival, the guy who ran one of the rides started telling me that I was ruining my kids' lives by having so many, and that they'd hate me when they were grown.
Honestly, the thing that upsets me most is when people imply that my oldest two are not "really" mine, just because I didn't give birth to them. "Oh, you don't REALLY have seven kids, you only have five." NO, I have SEVEN. About to have EIGHT. I raised them, I changed their diapers, they're MY KIDS.