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When do we use the crib???

post #1 of 52
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My son has been sleeping through the night since he was a week old. However, since he was so small (4lbs 13oz when I took him home, not a preemie either, just really tiny), his doctors told me I MUST wake him up to eat every 3 hours bc he needs to gain a lot of weight fairly quickly. So, on our first day home, I put his bassinet directly next to my bed. It's not only convenient for feeding, but he's had painful gas for about 3 weeks now, and it wakes him up out of a dead sleep with a really bad tummy ache! So I pull him into bed with me to cuddle and help him get thru it as easily and quickly as possible. (He goes right back in the bassinet as soon as he passes gas and falls asleep).

Well, he finally got to a weight where I no longer need to wake him up to feed him during the night. It's wonderful, bc most nights he'll sleep from 10pm to 530am without waking up. Unless he has gas. In which case, cuddle-time with mommy! Lol

My question is this..... when do I stop using the bassinet for sleep and start using the crib in his room?? I've been practicing putting him in it during the day, and he seems perfectly fine. But he's never actually Slept in it..

My husband thinks I'm being too over-protective and says I'm just going to make it worse for the long run. Not only for the baby, but for me as well.

So... what do I do?? Do I "abandon" him in his crib and run to his room if he wakes up with a tummy ache (aka: no more cuddling)?? Do I ignore the tummy aches and let him handle it himself (aka cry it out - at 2 months old)?? Or do I stick with the bassinet til the tummy aches go away and move him to the crib later on (hoping he doesn't care that I'm not Right There for him if he needs me)??
post #2 of 52
Well, my DS co-slept in bed with me. It was honestly the only way I would ever do it because I didn't want to be having to get up and go to his crib when he cried. There is absolutely nothing wrong with cuddling him and tending to his needs. He needs that so much right now. You are shaping his emotional well being and teaching him that he can trust that his needs will be met. Good mommy!!

My son had that gas thing too. I did "bicycle legs" with him to help push the gas out. I would also massage his tummy. Poor baby!!
I would keep him next to you for as long as you feel comfortable with it. In my case the crib got used as a play pen for my son and if I needed a place to throw laundry LOL.
post #3 of 52
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Thank you Dalia. I have been telling my hubby that he's too young to manipulate us. If he's crying, it's for a reason. And I don't feel like we should "cut him off" for needing attention right now. He's my little man, and I'm going to do whatever I can to make him feel as safe and loved as I possibly can. Even if I need to cuddle with him and help push his farts out at 3 am lol... and yes, I try to do my best massaging his tummy and doing the bicycle. I have also tried warm baths. I think my next step is going to be prune juice bc the apple juice isn't working for him at all.
post #4 of 52

We've never used a crib with six kids. Well, when the oldest was born we tried it for about three days and mommy about went crazy.

 

Anyway, you could compromise by bringing the crib into your room. Even big medical organizations that are against bedsharing, advise baby sleeping in the same room at the parents to decrease the risk of SIDS, so you could point that out to him.

 

As for getting them out of the bed when they are older, most of ours went very easily with no returns once they were moved. Only a couple of the younger girls have had issues and they go to sleep fine, it is just waking up sometimes and wanting to come to our bed.

post #5 of 52
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Originally Posted by ValerieMarie View Post

Thank you Dalia. I have been telling my hubby that he's too young to manipulate us. If he's crying, it's for a reason. And I don't feel like we should "cut him off" for needing attention right now. He's my little man, and I'm going to do whatever I can to make him feel as safe and loved as I possibly can. Even if I need to cuddle with him and help push his farts out at 3 am lol... and yes, I try to do my best massaging his tummy and doing the bicycle. I have also tried warm baths. I think my next step is going to be prune juice bc the apple juice isn't working for him at all.

Wait, are you giving a two month old apple juice or am I misunderstanding?

In any case, SIDS prevention guidelines state that babies should be in the parent's room until at least 6 months old so really there is no good reason to move him. I personally co-sleep, but if you don't feel comfortable with that, then room-sharing is good too smile.gif
post #6 of 52
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Originally Posted by ValerieMarie View Post

Thank you Dalia. I have been telling my hubby that he's too young to manipulate us. If he's crying, it's for a reason. And I don't feel like we should "cut him off" for needing attention right now. He's my little man, and I'm going to do whatever I can to make him feel as safe and loved as I possibly can. Even if I need to cuddle with him and help push his farts out at 3 am lol... and yes, I try to do my best massaging his tummy and doing the bicycle. I have also tried warm baths. I think my next step is going to be prune juice bc the apple juice isn't working for him at all.

Wait, are you giving a two month old apple juice or am I misunderstanding?

In any case, SIDS prevention guidelines state that babies should be in the parent's room until at least 6 months old so really there is no good reason to move him. I personally co-sleep, but if you don't feel comfortable with that, then room-sharing is good too smile.gif
post #7 of 52
You are very welcome! It sounds like you really care for him and are doing your best to do right by your little man. :-)

I wouldn't do apple juice at two months. That could be making the problem worse as his digestive tract just isn't ready for it. For now, I would stick with breast milk or formula. I seem to remember giving my little one a teaspoon I watered down camomile tea when things got really bad. Also, there are homeopathic and herbal remedies for colic that can be bought at the health food store or online.

Good luck!!! :-D
post #8 of 52
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You know, I never even thought about SIDS when I brought him into the room with us. I know I can be a little crazy about the baby sometimes, but there's always a good reason for everything I do...even if I haven't figured out what that reason is yet lol. It must have been in my subconscious somewhere creeping around. Thank you both for bringing that up!!
post #9 of 52
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Originally Posted by ValerieMarie View Post

You know, I never even thought about SIDS when I brought him into the room with us. I know I can be a little crazy about the baby sometimes, but there's always a good reason for everything I do...even if I haven't figured out what that reason is yet lol. It must have been in my subconscious somewhere creeping around. Thank you both for bringing that up!!

Yes!!! Mothers have that instinct and should trust it. No one knows better than mama. <3
post #10 of 52
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Originally Posted by womenswisdom View Post

Wait, are you giving a two month old apple juice or am I misunderstanding?

In any case, SIDS prevention guidelines state that babies should be in the parent's room until at least 6 months old so really there is no good reason to move him. I personally co-sleep, but if you don't feel comfortable with that, then room-sharing is good too smile.gif

Yes, my doctor suggested it before trying prune juice. I asked why and she said bc you can give him up to 6 oz of apple juice a day and if it works, it works. You can't overload him on apple juice. But too much prune juice could be messy. And gross. And if you can avoid messy, try it. It can't hurt. HOWEVER, I think it made him worse! I'm never seeing that doctor again. She also told me no pacifier, and to start tummy time at 2 weeks old. I thought my mother in law was gonna smack her when she said that last one. Now I'm learning this lady is just an idiot all across the board. Wtf :-(
post #11 of 52
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You are very welcome! It sounds like you really care for him and are doing your best to do right by your little man. :-)

I wouldn't do apple juice at two months. That could be making the problem worse as his digestive tract just isn't ready for it. For now, I would stick with breast milk or formula. I seem to remember giving my little one a teaspoon I watered down camomile tea when things got really bad. Also, there are homeopathic and herbal remedies for colic that can be bought at the health food store or online.

Good luck!!! :-D

Thanx! I'm going to find a new doctor, and buy some tea this week! Lol
post #12 of 52
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Originally Posted by fruitfulmomma View Post

We've never used a crib with six kids. Well, when the oldest was born we tried it for about three days and mommy about went crazy.

Anyway, you could compromise by bringing the crib into your room. Even big medical organizations that are against bedsharing, advise baby sleeping in the same room at the parents to decrease the risk of SIDS, so you could point that out to him.

As for getting them out of the bed when they are older, most of ours went very easily with no returns once they were moved. Only a couple of the younger girls have had issues and they go to sleep fine, it is just waking up sometimes and wanting to come to our bed.
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6 kids and no crib for any of them? That's amazing! How did you do that?? Didn't they run around on you? My nephew is always climbing out of his crib just so his dad will chase him around their apartment lol... it's not funny bc I'd be so mad if mine escaped every single night and I had to chase him. But it's actually quite hysterical to watch from afar
post #13 of 52
"6 kids and no crib for any of them? That's amazing! How did you do that?? Didn't they run around on you? My nephew is always climbing out of his crib just so his dad will chase him around their apartment lol... it's not funny bc I'd be so mad if mine escaped every single night and I had to chase him. But it's actually quite hysterical to watch from afar"

Girl you better get ready LOL!!! They ALL climb!!!! When my DH was a baby he climbed out of his crib, out the bedroom window and onto the roof of the second story!!!! This is why we have baby monitors now!! LOL
post #14 of 52
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Oh my goodness that's crazy!! I am so glad my house is only one floor! Hahaha! I am SO not looking forward to crib escapes yet.
post #15 of 52

Yep, they climb. They've climbed over safety gates and out of playpens. The youngest one had one of those activity center seats and by 10 months she had figured out how to get out of it. 

 

Our house is small so they can't run far. It can kinda be exhausting sometimes but such is the life of a parent. A good carrier like an Ergo can help for those times you really need them contained.

post #16 of 52
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Originally Posted by ValerieMarie View Post

Yes, my doctor suggested it before trying prune juice. I asked why and she said bc you can give him up to 6 oz of apple juice a day and if it works, it works. You can't overload him on apple juice. But too much prune juice could be messy. And gross. And if you can avoid messy, try it. It can't hurt. HOWEVER, I think it made him worse! I'm never seeing that doctor again. She also told me no pacifier, and to start tummy time at 2 weeks old. I thought my mother in law was gonna smack her when she said that last one. Now I'm learning this lady is just an idiot all across the board. Wtf :-(

I am *shocked* that a doctor would recommend giving a two-month old apple juice for any reason. And seriously, up to 6 oz??? That is a LOT of apple juice when compared to how much breasmilk a baby that age would consume and it would replace the nutrition the baby would get from the breastmilk. Babies under 6 months should have nothing but breastmilk or formula since it disrupts the gut, decreases the needed nutrition from breasmilk and can cause far more problems than it might solve.
post #17 of 52

Hi,

My son also had gas when he was a couple of months old. At the time they gave them Mylacon.  It didn't work so he told me to give him fruit!  I did starting with pears and it worked beautifully, no more gas.  I was also breast feeding so I had a restricted diet. You know no broccoli, I wasn't a big dairy person, and other gassy foods.  Hope this helps:) 

post #18 of 52

Your baby should stay in your room until YOU are ready to move him. Period. You need give no reason to anyone. I agree no more juice! And I also 2nd giving a small amount of either chamomile or catnip tea-I was told I could use up to an ounce per night.

post #19 of 52
Adding chamomile tea to the bath water can also help with gas.

And you can't spoil a baby. If anything, moving him out of your room at this point would be harder on both of you. You'd have to get up and go to him in the night, meaning you're both more awake from the extra time and movement. Babies and moms are designed to desire constant (or near constant) closeness. It's normal and healthy. Babies don't have the mental capacity for manipulation. Even older babies and toddlers who fuss or cry to "get their way" aren't doing it to be malicious, but because they don't understand why you won't let them play with the shiny kitchen knife that looks so fun.
post #20 of 52

Babies that young have trouble digesting things that aren't breastmilk, so that can't be helping the gas.

 

When does he leave the bassinet? When he is too large to fit in it!

 

My son sleeps in a crib beside our bed, and then when he wakes up, I take him into bed with me to snuggle. He's 18 months.

 

Where's the harm?

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