Originally Posted by FlintDoula
Don't get me wrong I'm very much a "crunchy" "hippie" kinda person but I just trust the AAP and the CPSC more than I do SLIGHTLY biased studies. I don't think its an epidemic or anything but its not far to call something safe when it is the reason for the dealth of infants.
To answer more personal questions I am doing relative care for my two little cousins (aged 4 & 5) and have been for the past two years and will most likely adopt them this year. No I don't not have my own kids yet but we are TTC.
Why do you ask?
I don't think a label is necessary, but thanks for trying to help me understand. Others have answered more succinctly than I'm about to do, but I'll respond to each point. The AAP? WHo are they? They are a bunch of doctors, most of whom know nothing of raising infants/children in a normal way. THey don't know about breastfeeding. They don't know about nutrition. They don't know about safe co-sleeping. Most of them have not breastfed (or their spouses have not), haven't studied nutrition & haven't studied normal human behavior. I'm not putting them down. This simply isn't their training & unless they have an interest that leads them to do it on their own, they don't. They are busy people! They are also a product of their CULTure & therefore tend to blow the way the wind does.
In many areas of our society, we tell people what not to do instead of educating them on doing things safely. This is a prime example of it. There's warnings in many places on the dangers of co-sleeping (which is a blanket term which may or may not include things like bed-sharing) rather than an explanation of what things can be done in order to co-sleep safely. I've seen this tactic used in other areas as well. I read a blog post from a small babywearing company about the dangers of buying used carriers. She missed a great opportunity to educate parents on what to look for to make babywearing safe if you choose to purchase carriers second had &, 'hey, when you want to buy new, buy from us!" You will even hear parents doing this all the time: "NO!, don't touch that!!!" rather than the parent bending down a teaching the child to touch the breakable thing gently. It's all over the place.
The CPSC - isn't that the group that represents and/or makes cribs? Not an unbiased organization. They loose money on every family who chooses not to purchase their products.
I'm not sure what infant deaths you are referring to, but I know that very often, when a child dies in an UNsafe co-sleeping situation, it's referred to as SIDS. SIDS is unexplained. WHen a child dies on a couch, the cause of death is not unexplained. Again, fear mongering are used to try to discourage a practice that is normal for humans & has been a part of our collective lives for the majority of human history. I am not saying that there's never been a child to die of true SIDS during safe co-sleeping. I do know that far more babies die alone in their rooms than die when co-sleeping or bed-sharing safely.
That is awesome that you are caring for your young cousins. I'm sure they are very lucky to have you!!! I asked because prior to becoming a parent, we often think things have to be a certain way w/ children. Once we have them, we're usually humbled by something we professed before their arrival. I know for myself, co-sleeping/bed-sharing was NOT a part of my plan. I had planned to have my child in a crib in their own room from the first day home from the hospital. Little did I know that she would have her own plans & that nursing for 1.5 hours out of every 2 around the clock would mean virtually no sleep for me if I tried to put her down. It all worked out okay though once I realized that what she wanted was normal & in both our best interests.
Originally Posted by Asiago
Safe Co-sleeping Guidelines for anyone who may be considering co-sleeping. Since we live in a culture where co-sleeping, nor breastfeeding, is not the norm, many parents may not realize all of these safety factors.http://cosleeping.nd.edu/safe-co-sleeping-guidelines/
Didn't read the link, but thanks for posting info on safe co-sleeping!!!
Originally Posted by rachelsmama
By that logic, no infants should be sleeping in cribs either since so many have died in them. SIDS even used to be called crib-death.
eta: The reason for the recommendation to keep the baby in the parents' room isn't parental "peace of mind", it's to lower the risk of SIDS.
Yeah, the recommendation to avoid co-sleeping/bed-sharing is not based on logic. It's based on the thinking that parents can't be taught how to do it safely so we'll say to just avoid it all together. Kind of along the same lines of the flawed logic behind, "an intact penis isn't clean!" Right, "we can't teach him to clean it so we'll just chop it off!" No thank you!