I was just wondering if anyone else can share their experience with this. My husband and I thought it would be fun to foster and help a child in need, but hadn't planned to adopt as we weren't ready to be parents at the time. Of course we fell in love with our children and that all changed! We adopted them about a year ago and have had them for 4 years. They were 1 and 4 at the time they arrived and are currently 5 and 8. We are now expecting our first biological child.
They both seem super excited about it (actually both had been begging for a little sibling!)... but the other day my son said "Mommy did you always wish you could have birth babies but it never happened so you adopted me?" And it just broke my heart! I reassured him that I had always wanted both. And of course reiterated that no matter the reason for adopting all parents love their child, as some of his friends parents did struggle with infertility.
But anyway... I worry a little... that maybe they will feel like somehow they aren't loved as much. A friend of mine was adopted and her sister wasn't, she always felt she was treated unfairly and that her parents loved the sister more. I don't know if its true or not.... But my biggest fear is that somehow my kids will feel that way. The thought literally makes me cry as I just love them both so incredibly much (I'm a little hormonal )
I've been trying to research and find books or articles on the subject but I can't seem to find anything about having a biological child after adoption. Everything I find is on adopting after having biological children.
I would just love to hear of anyone who has been in a similar situation... even people who have had bio kids first and adopted second... just on how you make sure all kids feel equally loved etc.