Dia, I think about the same thing.
I had a minor freakout yesterday, though not bad for me, considering my major lifelong body image/ED issues. I think I have to accept that I am one of the 20% (?) of women who retains weight while breastfeeding. I don't weigh myself d/t my ED (which also complicates things as I can't really count calories or I will trigger it), but it's clear that even with good eating and regular exercise, I am not losing weight/fat. Or rather, I am probably/apparently losing just a little and verrrrrry slowly. I think that simply adjusting my expectations will help (figuring it won't really come off for another 6-12 months, as baby begins eating substantial solids and I maybe get my period back). But that will only help a little. I'm thinking a girdle at least will help with my clothes fitting. And maybe some new clothes, LOL.
I have mentioned this before, but I am kinda built like HoP and so all my clothes accentuate a small waist (which I still have) and a relatively flattish tummy (not now!) I thought pregnancy would be a big blow because of that, but it wasn't, because I had "a good reason" for the extra weight around my midsection. Well, I have "a good reason" now, too, but society doesn't see it that way. Makes it a bit tough. Just sharing my honest feelings. I think it's rankling me a bit because I've never been skinny, but my small waist/tummy has always made me seem smaller than I am (and fit into smaller clothes if they are cut for my body type). Like you wouldn't think someone with 45-47" hips would wear a size 6-8-- you'd think that would be plus-sized-- but I didn't "look it" before. Now with extra weight/pooch (partly d/t a little diastasis), my midsection comes closer to "matching" my hips, and thus it's a different... look. Working hard on keeping it in perspective. I do think it helps that I am old (ha-- 35) and so I know and FEEL that a year is not that long in the scheme of things.
I do plan on continuing some diastasis rehab, plus doing some higher-intensity exercise and squats/muscle-building, but I don't expect it to have the effect it normally would.