So, I just had a baby about 2 weeks ago. I knew that there would be some regression in my two and a half year old, but for some reason I thought it would be more in terms of needing more help at bed time and wanting to be treated more like a baby. But it's actually more regression in terms of refusing to get dressed, do diaper changes, hold my hand, etc, etc. I know that "this too shall pass" and a lot of things will get better as I learn to balance my time a little more to give him more one on one attention.....but what to do in the mean time?
Leaving the house is next to impossible since he will refuse to get dressed, even for outings to the playground or something that he really looks forward to. This is an area that was hard for us a few months ago, but even my tried and true tricks aren't working anymore, and I am just too exhausted to keep my calm as much as I should. And any time I am stressed, he picks up on it and it causes him to act out more. So, right now he refuses diaper changes. He will wear a wet diaper until it falls off because it's too heavy, or even wets through them onto his clothes. I am tandem nursing him, and he nurses as much as the newborn, so having a "liquid diet" means that he's peeing a TON. I also try negotiating or timing the diaper changes (so I give him a rundown of First we are going to finish lunch, then diaper, then nurse...or something of the like, and he still won't do it). So how do I navigate this?
Is it going to get better as he and I adjust, or is there something more proactive I can be doing to get out of this funk? How long will this last? Thanks!