Suzie: your DH is awesome. Don't feel guilty. I have to GLARE at mine for him to realize I need a break though he's got a lot on his plate. Still. Someone needs to take care of mama. There is an awesome thread about labor stuff I think you NEED to read! I'll post it. My DH loves Amelie but not Amelia and we keep bouncing it back and forth.
Oh here it is:
AFM: I feel very disconnected from DH right now. It seems that my pregnancy has gone further down his priority list and it's upsetting. What will it be like once I give birth? Getting help is one thing, feeling cared for is another. I def don't feel cared for by anyone but myself. DD is being especially loving so that's really helping me stay grounded. She hugs and kisses me and is such an angel. I just need a little extra and feel like I get zero right now from DH. Just for him to rub my belly to feel the baby--- anything!
He keeps taking about how he hasn't told anyone at work (his 2nd week) that his wife is pregnant. I get it-- he's only been there two weeks-- but when the subject comes up in conversation I feel it's weird that he said "oh you never know!" when some coworker was asking him if he's "working on having kid #2".. He still hasn't talked to the person who handles HR related stuff though they've discussed insurance already so I assumed the subject would come up. It's like he's avoiding the whole thing because he thinks he'll be fired on the spot for telling them his wife is pregnant?!?! I'm really not following the logic with that one. He's very lucky he got this job true but he's also about to be a dad for the second time. More important I feel by far. But maybe I'm missing something there.
I almost feel like he doesn't want to tell them. Or he doesn't want to take a leave when I give birth. It's absurd I'm sure but it makes me wonder. It's hard to get excited about meeting our second daughter when I get to worry if my husband will even be able to take the day off while I'm in labor. We are in this weird funk right now where I went from being the person working and sharing responsibilities with DH, to the person left behind to do it all. Oh yeah and I'm still working. Though barely. I'm approaching my 3rd tri and just can't do it anymore. I can barely get dinner on the table and the house cleaned. I feel like I should just quit working entirely but we are struggling right now and could use the money.
Ugh anyone relate to a less than enthusiastic partner? Hope your week (what's left of it!) is going good ladies!
Edited by tillymonster - 6/20/13 at 12:42am