"Are you done?!?!?!?!" - Page 2
In our early years, we thought we'd probably have 10 ourselves. We planned #8 and said, as we always have, we'd re-assess where we are after s/he is born and go from there, but were thinking that s/he might be our last. Mostly from social pressure and intrusive questions, public stigma against large families. We used to firmly believe in letting mother nature run her course (as long as we had time, health and resources on our side to be able to provide for everyone in the physical, material and emotional ways needed). Somewhere along the line, the pressures made us give up on that and we were really thinking Baby 2013 would be our last, regardless of if we wanted and could provide for more.
Then came the invasion of the nieces and nephews. We went from 'large but still somewhat normal' large family status, to 'crazy mega-family with a million closely-spaced kids' large family status within 2 months. As far as we know, the new kids are with us forever. We all dearly hope for that, and hopefully it'll be legal within the next year or so. It's been a huge adjustment but most everyone is doing well and thriving with it. I accept them as my kids more and more each day, they are coming to accept us as their parents and are thriving, meshing with new siblings and all.
You'd think it'd make us throw our hands in the air and say we're done for good but actually it's had the opposite effect. I think DH and I have seen that we can cope with anything, and hey, we're already firmly in crazy large family territory. People already stare and make comments and they always will. It's our new normal. So if it happens, it happens, and really what's one more?
but were thinking that s/he might be our last. Mostly from social pressure and intrusive questions, public stigma against large families. Somewhere along the line, the pressures made us give up on that and we were really thinking Baby 2013 would be our last, regardless of if we wanted and could provide for more.
I'm 22 weeks pregnant with number six (I am 36 years old) and don't really know. Both the above quotes ring true for me. I also don't feel as healthy as I did when I was pregnant at a younger age so I wonder how one more might affect my overall long term health.
Oops! Sorry, I didn't see the first question!
There's 12 at home right now, aged 13 and under, between our 7 and our nieces and nephews. 13 if you count LO due in Nov.
For the record, we did NOT know this would be our situation when we planned LO! We were still in Texas and aware of what was going on, but mostly uninvolved, heh. How things change.
After the hellish two weeks I've had, perhaps I spoke too soon on that "let nature run its course" thing. I'm not sure if I'm speaking from stress/irritability right now or I was speaking out of insanity up there.