Our "new" home is, in reality, an 80 year-old 1500 sq ft. townhome in a lovely historic community that was NOT cared for by its previous owners. But it's our first home and, when we bought it, we planned to pretty much renovate the whole things ourselves to make it what we wanted. We moved in when DS was 8 months, my husband packed us up as I was watching DS who is and always has been HYPER, and DH did not get rid of anything/did not organize anything and basically just threw everything in a truck and hauled it in.
We've never recovered. Fast forward to nearly 2 years later- our basement has been gutted by DH and is about 85% complete. The rest of the house is the next step. That experience could take up a whole separate post. However, I've been on maternity leave for 3 months and I think it has truly been a result of me being at home every day to suddenly feel completely overwhelmed with how I will ever make our house a home.
Furniture is still dropped in its move-in position and not relocated since we're planning on renovating the rooms and therefore won't decorate yet. Every drawer in the house is a disorganized mess. Our "linen closet" is full of paint samples, balled up sheets, beach towels, and other odds and ends. Our whole attic is full of stuff that we are trying to build storage for in our basement sometime soon. If I need something, I have to send my husband up there who shuffles stuff around for 30 min. until he finds it (or not). In short: the house is a mess. And we've lived here for 2 years.
The thing is, it hasn't been until having my 1st child that the importance of a clutter-free, organized house became a huge priority to me. But, I've been feeling pretty intense anxiety over the last 2 years living in this home and looking around at the chaos on a daily basis- usually I'm working full-time, but now I'm home with 2 kids for a while and the intensity is even worse. The house may look tidy from a stranger's perspective but I know what our closets, drawers, and storage looks like and I have no clue how to even tackle it with a 2.5 year old and a newborn PLUS a DIY renovation that will likely take up the next 5 years of my life.
I've checked out the flylady website and I was pretty overwhelmed. I'm wondering if anyone can offer me some tips? I think one of my biggest problems is spending time stressing and complaining over how disorganized everything is and then not actually doing anything because I feel so overwhelmed.
Also- can anyone offer me some advice on how to get my husband on board with this concept? Literally, the man has so many strengths but never, ever, EVER puts anything away. Including trash. He'll just leave it on the counter for me to throw away. I've talked to him about it but nothings changes, and I don't want to become a nagging wife. He also is somewhat of a packrat and has bags full of papers from his past educational courses, has saved every ticket stub/ATM receipt from foreign countries we've visited, that type of thing. In 1500 sq. ft., I fear our lives will never become the nice, clean, simple homey environment I envision for our home.