My partner has a 12 year-old son who is an only child. He seems to think that he should know everything that happens in the household. I know he goes through our things (We have started keeping "adult" items in a locked suitcase) and when my partner and I want to be alone in our room even just to talk he is right there at the door wanting to be in on every detail.
I have four children of my own and he can't stand it when I have a private conversation with one of them. When one of my children needs behavioral correction I teach them by means of talking privately with them, and it seems that every time I need a private moment with one of my children he is right there peeking around the door listening in..
His father says he has talked to him about privacy and respecting other people's personal property, but I am not seeing any behavioral reflection of this. It is getting to the ridiculous point that we are having to use code words around him when we talk about certain things because his nosey little ears will hone in on everything we say!
I suspect that, because he is an only child and lives with only his mother during the week, he is treated as the man of the house. I understand that, but in my house he is not an adult. He is one of five children. I don't expect him to behave as my kids do, who have always lived with a house full of children, but I don't know how to handle the nosiness issue.
I feel like the root of the problem is that he believes he should have all the same rights and privileges as an adult. If his father gets a new electronic device, he talks his mother into buying him the same one. Anything that is in the house he expects to have access. Any information he feels he should be privy to.
He is a very sweet child and otherwise very considerate. I just don't know how to handle this particular situation. Suggestions would be very helpful.