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post #161 of 245
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Originally Posted by mrsandmrs View Post

beep, i think Bliss is a really adorable first name. are there any attributes, family members or sentimental things you want to honor with her middle name(s)? Do you want her middle to incorporate the M's from the last names? What kind of ancestry or cultures does your family represent? 

 

I think all else being equal I'd like her middle name to have an M and/or an L somewhere in it, because of liking the sound of the repeated but not rhyming consonants. 

 

We want her middle name to have some nice meaning or history to it, but don't have a particular family or sentimental person or concept to which we're attached.  One we've considered is Ellen, which is similar to but not the same as my mom's name--a plus for me, but a minus for my husband, who really doesn't get along with my mom.  The first name we've chosen has a lot of family history/significance, and she'll get one last name from each of us, so we don't feel like her middle has to be a family name.

 

My background is WASP American; in fact, on my side this baby will be a 13th generation American.  Her dad was adopted from Korea by Scandinavian-Americans from the Midwest but doesn't feel strong connections to Sweden, Norway, or Korea at this point.  Our first child has his dad's birth surname as a middle name, but unfortunately we don't really want to reuse that and DH's birth first and middle names are (a) boy names in Korea and (b) don't sound so good in English.  We have thought of picking a Korean middle name, but since DH doesn't speak Korean and we don't really have connections to anyone who does, we didn't want to pick something at random off the internet without knowing the connotations or feeling very personally connected to the name.  Our son is learning Chinese at school and I have many family members (Caucasian and several Chinese in-laws) who speak Chinese or live in China, so it would be easier to pick something Chinese--but we parents don't speak Chinese and wonder if it would be weird to bring in a Chinese name for a kid who will be half Asian but without a Chinese background.

post #162 of 245

beep- Have you thought about researching to see if their is a feminine equivalent to DH's Korean names? It seems as though there usually is in most languages, but I'm not familiar with Korean names at all. 

 

Although you say your DH isn't especially fond of your mom, since it is the middle name and likely not to be used on a day to day basis, would that have any bearing to him? Looking back at my older kids names, My XH's family has members who were honored in two of my older children's name, but out of all 4, there isn't any name from my side. It does bother me at times, but it's not a huge issue either. Although your DH isn't fond of your mom, will she/does she have a relationship with your kids? Even though it's not ideally special to your DH, to your daughter it might mean quite a lot of have a middle name which is similar/honors grandma.  Just some random thoughts to ponder.  

post #163 of 245

beep- names that are not your mother's but are similar to Ellen:

Eleanor

Ellinor

Leone

Leonore

Lenore

Leora

 

i too like when sounds repeat a little bit. since you're thinking of Bliss as the first name, i might try to repeat the L instead of the M sound. syllable-wise, i might go for three for the mn since you have a hyphenated two-syllable last name. but those are just ideas!

post #164 of 245

today i am fantasizing about all the wonderful middle names i could give my child had we not decided to use family names for them. 

 

today i'm obsessed with Alabaster as a name. at first i thought it would probably be a little weird to use it as a name. but i just did a quick search and apparently the word derives from the Egyptian cat goddess Bast, who was frequently honored with things made of Alabaster. 

 

:)

post #165 of 245

I like Alabaster.  

 

So I had the genius idea to get onto Ancestry.com and look up some ancestors for name inspiration-mainly for the MN, but still. I signed up for the all access free two week trial, and I am SO glad I didn't put out any money for it.  After well over an hour, I was able to find myself on two family trees-but both had incorrect info, and in trying to just go back 3 generations I couldn't really find anyone or anything I didn't know just from common knowledge of who my grandparents/great grandparents were. Maybe I'm just stupid and can't figure it out, but it seems incredibly confusing, and not worth the time unless you're SUPER interested in looking up past relatives.  It also would do completely separate searches for maiden and married names-with no association between the two.  Totally frustrated.

 

The current short list is Sophia and Penelope. Lydia and Sylvia have been thrown into the mix by the girls because they're ia names like all my older girls. IDK why it's so hard for me to ditch the ia-I even tried to rationalize it from the perspective of that's the trend me and my XH did with the kids, so why not abandon it with DF, but then I think, if we do, she'll be the "odd one" out, like if the Duggars suddenly had another child and gave it a Z name or something...lol.  

 

I LIKE Sophia, but I don't LOVE it.  I LOVE Penelope-but ugh...the ia thing. I'm still stuck on the popularity of Sophia, when I had my son at the dr the other day, which shares an office with a birth center, the receptionist was confirming info for a baby born the week before named....Sophia.  Argh.  I keep hearing it everywhere, and it's probably stupid how much it's irking me, but I just feel like I should be able to do better than the most popular name in American society for the last few years. 

post #166 of 245
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I LOVE Penelope-but ugh...the ia thing.

 

All four options are beautiful! I don't think you can go wrong. Maybe also consider Penelopia?

post #167 of 245
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All four options are beautiful! I don't think you can go wrong. Maybe also consider Penelopia?

 

freckledmama: i agree, all four options - in any combination (assuming you are going for a mn too?) - are beautiful!

 

i've never heard of Penelopia before, so i'd probably stick with the -e ending here. if it's really important to you to have the first name end on -ia, you could always use Penelope as the mn!

 

oh, and re:ancestry.com - - i was never able to figure it out either. but i think that site is not for me anyways. as far as i know they only have access to US documents, right? i'm the first one from my family to live in the US, so they'd have no records on us anyway. 

 

there's also genealogy.com, but i'm not sure if they're any better.

post #168 of 245
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I LIKE Sophia, but I don't LOVE it.  I LOVE Penelope-but ugh...the ia thing. I'm still stuck on the popularity of Sophia, when I had my son at the dr the other day, which shares an office with a birth center, the receptionist was confirming info for a baby born the week before named....Sophia.  Argh.  I keep hearing it everywhere, and it's probably stupid how much it's irking me, but I just feel like I should be able to do better than the most popular name in American society for the last few years. 

 

For the record, when you like something and you suddenly start seeing it everywhere, it's called the Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon.  It comes from the human brain's need to pattern and compartmentalize things.  If you're attached to Sophia, then just know your mind might be making you more grumpy about it!

 

I personally like Lydia (with Lyddie for a nickname?) but that's just me.  Penelope is a name on the rise right now too, so if you're really attached to the -ia from Sophia, then I'd stick with it...Penelope might be much more popular in the next several years.

post #169 of 245
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Originally Posted by aidenn View Post

 

For the record, when you like something and you suddenly start seeing it everywhere, it's called the Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon

 

how crazy. when i first read this, i was wondering what that German urban guerrilla group had to do with naming.. i've always wondered what that phenomenon was called!

post #170 of 245

That's so funny.  Kind of like when you buy a new car and then suddenly see the same car everywhere. Lydia and Sylvia are starting to grow on me because they're a lot less common than Sophia, and I think you're right about Penelope becoming increasingly popular over the next few years.

 

And of course, my son's name is George, so because of a certain little prince, we'll likely see an increase in popularity there as well, lol.  

post #171 of 245
Writing as one who used to be the older daughter from the first marriage, with a full sister who has a name that "matches" mine and a much younger half sister.... Please consider continuing your theme for the sake of all the girls. My dad didn't despite our lobbying, and at the time my full sister and I felt like it meant we weren't quite part of the new family. The funny thing is that now that she's college aged, my little half sister talks about how left out she felt/feels because of her name being different!!
post #172 of 245
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Originally Posted by thefreckledmama View Post

I like Alabaster.  

So I had the genius idea to get onto Ancestry.com and look up some ancestors for name inspiration-mainly for the MN, but still. I signed up for the all access free two week trial, and I am SO glad I didn't put out any money for it.  After well over an hour, I was able to find myself on two family trees-but both had incorrect info, and in trying to just go back 3 generations I couldn't really find anyone or anything I didn't know just from common knowledge of who my grandparents/great grandparents were. Maybe I'm just stupid and can't figure it out, but it seems incredibly confusing, and not worth the time unless you're SUPER interested in looking up past relatives.  It also would do completely separate searches for maiden and married names-with no association between the two.  Totally frustrated.

The current short list is Sophia and Penelope. Lydia and Sylvia have been thrown into the mix by the girls because they're ia names like all my older girls. IDK why it's so hard for me to ditch the ia-I even tried to rationalize it from the perspective of that's the trend me and my XH did with the kids, so why not abandon it with DF, but then I think, if we do, she'll be the "odd one" out, like if the Duggars suddenly had another child and gave it a Z name or something...lol.  

I LIKE Sophia, but I don't LOVE it.  I LOVE Penelope-but ugh...the ia thing. I'm still stuck on the popularity of Sophia, when I had my son at the dr the other day, which shares an office with a birth center, the receptionist was confirming info for a baby born the week before named....Sophia.  Argh.  I keep hearing it everywhere, and it's probably stupid how much it's irking me, but I just feel like I should be able to do better than the most popular name in American society for the last few years. 

Ooh yes. But last time I had this dilemma I LOVED the name and still really do. Regardless.

I like Sofia too but it's too... I dunno. I just think of it being an Italian name-- like Giada and being not at all Italian I can't ever imagine a kid of mine with that name. But it is SO pretty. What about Amelia or Emilia? Or Lorena, Lorna, Marlena or just even Leah. I know you have one daughter named Claudia right? Supposedly Leah can be a nn of Eleanor. Which I love but my mother, if she were here, would not love it. Her first name was Ellen and she hated it. She went by her middle, Jeanene. Suited her also. So now it's off the list.

Penelope was on ours. Know why I nixed it? Misspelling and mispronouncing. This happens to me to this day with Phoebe. It made me hate the name. And my last name starts with P so something to think about.

Lydia is cute. Mostly because I love Beetlejuice! Sylvia is another favorite of mine-- I love that silly story Sara Sylvia Cynthia Stout.

I came upon the name Stella and Sheila recently and it caught my eye. DH was having none of it.

Adora is a brand of dolls (they are really cute) and a 15yo prodigy who recently did a talk at the Ted conference. Her name is Adora Lily (http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adora_Svitak) which freaks me out because it is something I assumed I would never find in that particular combo. So there goes my theory about Adora being taken seriously. Ted talks are as serious as it gets! I'm still like you, not in LOVE with it though its really growing on me like an annoying weed! Lillian is fast going toward being a middle because Lily and Tilly are just too weird for me. I don't like the rhyming. But Lillian Adora is magic. *sigh*

DH actually participated. He went through a huge book of rare marvel universe cards with character names. We both agreed that there aren't enough cool names for girls in comic books and none are as bad ass as Captain Adora, leader of the rebellion. Lol. We are NERDS!!!
post #173 of 245
Am I the only one here who's having second thoughts on the baby's name?

We decided a while ago, but now I'm not so sure about the first mn anymore.. It was supposed to be the name of my maternal grandfathers, but I'm just not sure if that would be the right choice anymore. No good other contenders either, though..
post #174 of 245
vc you are not alone! We still have pretty long short lists for both sexes. Boy MN is decided but that's it. Names are getting added and taken away frequently. DH is firm on his boy choice of Asa but I'm not sold. An acquaintance just named her son Azaraiah, NN Aza, and that's close enough for me to "meh" Asa (though I do *like* Asa).
post #175 of 245
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Originally Posted by haurelia View Post

vc you are not alone! We still have pretty long short lists for both sexes. Boy MN is decided but that's it. Names are getting added and taken away frequently. DH is firm on his boy choice of Asa but I'm not sold. An acquaintance just named her son Azaraiah, NN Aza, and that's close enough for me to "meh" Asa (though I do *like* Asa).

Wow, I've never heard of Azaraiah before! It does sound similar to Asa.. How close are you to this acquaintance?

We're totally set on the first name, that's the good news. The second mn is supposed to honor DF's mom. The first mn is supposed to be something from my family, and that's the part I'm second guessing right now. Told DF about it last night and I think he understands my reasoning. But at the same time, this one's up to ME to figure out.. Not much he can do to help!

I'm considering moving away from the honor name and over to a name that represents baby's partial Slavic heritage.. Looking for nature-inspired, landscape, place names or beautiful, meaningful words in Croatian but can't find anything I really like..

Another option I'm considering is to just use the second mn for another name we really love, without it being connected to anything heritage.

Or move the second mn into first mn position, and give baby my last name and DF's last name. But DF's honor name and the first mn (confused yet?) clash sound wise, so I thinks it would need a name in between. Sigh..
post #176 of 245
We're not close but live in a really small community. I don't know if it would matter but it just feels weird to me.

Sounds like you have a lot of name-hunting still to do. It's soooooo hard to name a person, IMO.
post #177 of 245
VC- I can't make any solid name choices either. We have a very long list of names but nothing perfect. I just know when I find the name I will just know. The harder part is that we don't know the sex so we need a boy and girl name!! Lol
post #178 of 245
Im finally feeling comfortable about names! We added a few names to our boy list so now i feel like we have some selection. We wont pick middle names until we meet baby and decide on a first name, but Im not too worried about that. I was stressed about only having one name on our boy list and I wasnt in love with even that one.. so Im feeling much better about it now!
post #179 of 245

My partner is actually starting to like the name Bran! We were going to go with Brandyn as a compromise, but I will always much prefer Bran, o I'm really glad he's starting to change his mind.

post #180 of 245
nettlesoup - thats great! I know how much you were preferring Bran (so do I actually) so its awesome that you two are on the same page now smile.gif
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