I can count on my fingers the numnber of Dr./MW appointment my dh has attended (including births) and still have some left for picking my nose. And we have 3 children. I know he attended the ultrasound with #1. came to one visit with #2 and then asked me if I always lied to her like that so he wasn't invited back :LOL (she really was a nutritian freak. she really stressed me out and I always had high blood pressure at my prenatals because of it - I knew I wasn't up to her high standard - sorry rant for another post) and with #3 he came to one emergancy ultrasound and by then I had two rambunctious kids so he was more than involved by taking them and letting me go to lunch, get my hair cut or just go for a walk and then spend time chatting with my midwife and just making an afternoon of it. It was beautiful. It would have been chaos having all of them there. He was there for all of the births but was bored to tears until the last one and I had the ultrasound all to myself with #3 which was fun because we just poked around joking and looking at stuff. very leisurly and stuff. He is way to high maitence and businesslike and would have sapped the fun out of these things.
He is a plenty involved dad but just doesn't get into pregnancy. I think it is to distant from him. He doesn't even put his hand on my beelly to feel them kick. But he was on the computer recounting the whole birth story before we even gave her a name
He is a plenty involved dad but just doesn't get into pregnancy. I think it is to distant from him. He doesn't even put his hand on my beelly to feel them kick. But he was on the computer recounting the whole birth story before we even gave her a name
In my doula work I often see these "involved" dads as overbearing and managing- no offense to anyone whose partner is involved in a healthy way- I just don't see that it means anything one way or the other, since everyone is an individual.
