Thank you for sharing my opinion lol. It's so relieving to hear from rational people!
The restaurant in question was Applebees. A "family friendly" restaurant and nobody was around but one single woman.
People were saying things about her child running wild and misbehaving because he "bothered" a stranger. Made me sick.
If it had been any other person besides a 3 year old I bet anything the woman would have had a multitude more patience. There is such a child-hating attitude these days, even among other parents. It's horrible to me.
They made assumptions that the OP was irrational and obsessed with her child, that she would have sued if the child had gotten hurt, etc. but the child was clearly being watched.
If my child is doing something wrong, or I can see he is not welcome I also steer him away or distract him, or ask him to stay near me, etc.
There is this bizarre and inconsistent idea that I see among mainstream moms that in some situations you are supposed to completely ignore your child and let them do whatever the hell they want and you are a "helicopter parent" if you don't, but then in other situations you have to watch them obsessively and if they dare to move or speak you have to spank them or remove them from the room.
I have dealt with this in person as well as online. I will never fit in with the mainstream because I guess I'm just too..... well, they would say I'm stupid but I think I make a hell of a lot more sense than them.
Originally Posted by pickle18
I wholeheartedly agree with this!!! I've also noticed the attitude that you describe among friends (not just about restaurants - like "OMG my kid is such a brat I have to get away" over completely normal age-appropriate behavior, or disrespecting/dehumanizing them in general) makes me so sad.
I am not a "children should be seen and not heard" person - and, in fact, my kid's friendliness has brought more smiles and started more conversations than anything else. Obviously, if someone seems not in the mood, I'll steer him clear or apologize (I'm usually right behind him). That said, I can't see how a smiling young child saying hi could "ruin a meal" Seems like it could save it, if anything, if it's already that miserable.
We also don't take our son to swanky 5-star restaurants - more family friendly neighborhood places, where even if you are on a nice date, you simply run the risk of brief, friendly encounters with a child (oh the horror!).