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post #41 of 124
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Inlove that really sucks. People just get stupid with pregnant women and forget all their manners.

When my last baby was two weeks over dates we changed our outgoing message to say no baby yet and stopped answering the phone. Then when she was born we changed the message again saying she had come and still didn't answer the phone.
It made all the difference in the world.

I still don't really answer my phone anymore, almost six years later.
post #42 of 124

that is a great idea wrenmoon! luckily we haven't had that many people asking yet, but I am only at 37 weeks. 

post #43 of 124

I'm starting to wonder if a) I'm not going to be pregnant forever, and b) if the whole real labor vs. BH thing is just a lie. Like what would happen if instead of forcing myself asleep during big contractions, I stayed up and walked around? I've been told that walking/movement can kickstart/make labor go faster... but also that if it's real labor nothing can stop it so the best thing to do is sleep to save energy for when it gets intense. I'm starting to feel these things are contradictory and someone, somewhere, is laughing at me for believe it all.

post #44 of 124
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Originally Posted by inconditus View Post

I'm starting to wonder if a) I'm not going to be pregnant forever, and b) if the whole real labor vs. BH thing is just a lie. Like what would happen if instead of forcing myself asleep during big contractions, I stayed up and walked around? I've been told that walking/movement can kickstart/make labor go faster... but also that if it's real labor nothing can stop it so the best thing to do is sleep to save energy for when it gets intense. I'm starting to feel these things are contradictory and someone, somewhere, is laughing at me for believe it all.

I was thinking the same thing! I think it's just weird to hear that "real" labor can't be stopped when there seems to be a lot of cases when labor that is MUCH further along does slow or stop when you don't commit mind and body to it.

I'm thinking of the sections in Ina May's Guide to Childbirth that talk about fear even reversing progress and about how waterbirth advocates emphasize that getting in the pool too soon can be so relaxing it slows labor.
post #45 of 124

My big whine of the day? The pool at my gym is closed until September, and every other form of exercise feels like torture. Now what? 

post #46 of 124

I will say from experience, with strong braxton hick/possible early labor contractions you are better off sleeping if it is night time and you can. During the day, if you feel those contractions seem pretty real, go walking, bounce on the birth ball, whatever. Just don't wear yourself out. If you are tired from a night of poor sleep, you are again better off going and taking a nap. Hope that helps. 

 

Cynthiamoon, I'd be super annoyed about the gym thing too. Lame.

post #47 of 124
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Cynthiamoon, I'd be super annoyed about the gym thing too. Lame.
I just carted 4 heavy loads of groceries up to the 3rd floor and I've decided: I don't need a gym. Just more days of prepping freezer meals!
post #48 of 124

The elevator at my midwife's office has been down the last two appointments, and they are on the 3rd floor. Brutal.

post #49 of 124
Thread Starter 
Omg. Stairs. I'm like a toddler on stairs. Both feet planted on every step and then step down, get balance, step again.

And bending over is officially out of the question entirely today. So is squatting. This is going to be an interesting birth if much more time goes by. I can barely move anymore everything hurts so much.
If I am actually pregnant, that is. I'm getting suspicious that it might be a joke or food poisoning or something.
post #50 of 124
Wrenmoon: LOL!

I hate being in a building with no elevator. I keep joking about rigging up a pulley system to the balcony since it's such a task to get food in the door.

How awful would it be if I pulley-Ed the baby up in her car seat too once she arrives? wink1.gif
post #51 of 124

like old school piano moving. 

we moved when I was 28 weeks from a second floor with no elevator, to the first floor-AMAZING!

post #52 of 124

Ooh, I like the idea of a pulley system, like in Amsterdam! Maybe just for the stroller though - carry the baby up. :)

 

I noticed recently that instead of running things upstairs when II find something that needs to go up, I've been leaving them about 3 steps up, so I only need to make one trip? Pregnancy or laziness? I'm not sure, but I'm going to call it operational efficiency for now! And the laundry gets carried upstairs (from the basement) in stages too.

post #53 of 124

Ruheling, I didn't realize that was a thing in Amsterdam, but I just looked it up and YES! That's what I need!!!

 

Also, staging stuff you have to move around the house is just smart! I do the same when I am decluttering random things that have ended up out of place. Once there's a sizeable "outgoing" pile in one room, then I cart it off to its destination, but I don't put it away until that's the room I've moved on to. And that big load of groceries? Definitely sat in a big pile just inside the main APT door and then again just outside my apt door because I brought it up in stages. I still have faith that my neighbors won't rob me of pineapple if I keep doing this. 

post #54 of 124
So, this is my first pregnancy and I am 39 weeks 4 days. As of 6 days ago, my babe was at 0 station. As of the last few days, I'm getting quite achy pains like, under my pubic mound and the pain is def getting worse. Every step I take or when I try to close my legs feels more achy. Anyone else experience the same thing, is this pretty normal? I imagine it is but at times feel it to be a little unsettling.
post #55 of 124

I don't know what's worse having BH contractions all the time or finally having a day without them. It's 10pm and for some reason I'm pissed that I wasn't miserable and faked out today.

 

Also super mad at husband that he came home and said "wow, looks like you didn't do anything to." Asshole, I'm allowed to not want to do the dishes one day. He also asked if I want to go to the waterpark for his company party August 3rd. I said "no" because I'm either going to have a newborn or be super pregnant (42 weeks) and both do not sound fun. He got this super depressed look on his face that he wants to "show off the baby" to everyone at work. I somehow decided to say he can go by himself so now I've got a husband with a full weekend booked up while I say "no" to everything.

 

August 3rd, company party, usually lasts from about 2pm-8pm

August 4th, his cousin's wedding. I can't remember the times but I know it's a good chunk of the day.

 

 

For some reason this makes me super grouchy.

 

Also, he is refusing to put out because he just can't get into it with me being pregnant. Apparently my big belly gets in the way/we don't fit together the same. He came up with a backup middle name incase I go past my due date since our original one was based off her being a cancer sign. Now that he's happy with an alternative he doesn't care sans the inconvenience of me possibly going into labor while he is at work. I must be super pregnant because I've never been so upset before. 

post #56 of 124
I have too mjch to whine about, I can't handle it, I feel weak. I can't even set up my stuff, hardly nothing feels ready. Can i use a pinch of witch hazel in spray bottle with a spoon of hempseed oil(which i wanna get at wholefoods)?? I cant figure out a baby wipe formula without going crazy. Its like i can't have the baby come because baby space/stuff isnt defined. I tried so hard. I am a little sad for this part to be over but its probably because i am.unprepared. Now i am worried about laundry&nothing washing right . Its as if i am.braced for choas and i have to try &be nicer to myself worrying i am.messing up my baby with my thougts&feelings. I am responsible for someone but I almost feel not good enough?
post #57 of 124

for the baby wipe solution, we're doing 1tbsp castille soap, 1tbsp tea tree oil, 1 tbsp olive oil, the rest water in a spray bottle we got from the dollar store. My friend uses cloth diapers and swears by it. 

post #58 of 124
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for the baby wipe solution, we're doing 1tbsp castille soap, 1tbsp tea tree oil, 1 tbsp olive oil, the rest water in a spray bottle we got from the dollar store. My friend uses cloth diapers and swears by it. 

Is the castile Drbronners? Thats the only one i know. It hurt my hands all winter though. Is there any reason why witch hazel cant be subsituted for the tea tree &hempseed oil for olive oil? Does it matter how big the spray bottle is for ratios? Will it be obvious if baby doesn't like it? Dont know if i will keep wanting to buy the hempseed oil but figure it will last long? If people who only do water right away, does it immediately cause issues? This feels so hard to me, i doubt everything of my ability to care for this baby . And researching on this phone is only getting worse. I hope my baby will love me&love life as imperfect as it is.
post #59 of 124
We did only water for many weeks with zero issues. Baby got a quick bath every day or every other day depending on how pooping has been and that was plenty.
post #60 of 124
Thread Starter 
Here we are-
Your baby's only needs are to be held, fed, and kept safe. That is what a baby wants. Eye contact, skin contact, loving voices and food. The rest is minimally important. Seriously.

This babe may not have skin sensitivities, be open to waiting to see before you dive into makin everything perfect based on maybes.
Water and olive oil is what I used to clean my baby for months. Start simple and get more complicated when you have to, if you have to. Babies have been laying on blankets on the floor or bed for hundreds of years before fancy chairs were invented, your baby might do just fine on a blanket until you figure out a chair, they have been cleaned with just water for thousands of years. (Witch hazel can be drying and unnecessarily astringent, it's usually made with alcohol of some kind.)

Go simple, then address complications as they arise. Super simple. Babies need boobs (bet you have some at this stage in the game) diapers (you're figuring that out), eye contact, mama arms, warmth and love. You are so lucky to have been chosen by this baby who gives not one fig about what kind of seat or bassinet or blanket. Just warmth and kindness and gentle mama love.
Simple simple simple. If you're not having fun preparing everything else, don't prepare anything else and do it as the need arises, I was shocked at how much life didn't stop after the babies were born.
We didn't even have a car seat until my first born was a month old. We just decompressed from birth and then bought one online when we were ready and aquired things as the need arose. A chair when I saw that he wanted to be more upright and watching us, a carrier when I needed him on my back. A safe bed when he started becoming mobile.
You have time, mama. You've done a good job already, you can stop trying to figure it all out now if its too much, especially if you're not enjoying it.
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