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Anyone else sleeping like crap?

post #1 of 18
Thread Starter 

I have not "slept through the night" since I found out I was pregnant (not that I did very often before then, either). Mostly because of waking up to pee. For a while I would wake up, use the bathroom, and fall back asleep pretty easily--I felt basically rested. For the past two weeks, though, I have hardly slept. I wake up and I have a horrible sore, dry throat, and the longer I am awake, the more I find myself jumping up to use the bathroom. Last night was a relatively "good" night--I woke up four times, and slept restlessly in between. I am supposed to be working from home, and I spend my days when DD is at daycare sleeping--yesterday I slept from 10-2 and today from 9-12. 

 

I got a cold a couple weeks ago and it is just dragging on, I know because my immune system is compromised from lack of sleep. I feel so depressed--I was really hoping to recharge before this baby is born, but now I feel like I will never be well rested again in my LIFE. 

 

I take Benadryl and melatonin and magnesium, because I had to give up the Trazodone I used to take (not safe for pregnancy). I'm trying to work in exercise (laps, which usually knock me out) but it hasn't made much difference.

 

No real answers out there, probably, but needed to vent. I don't remember it being quite this bad my last pregnancy, though I know I didn't sleep well then, either.

post #2 of 18

Yep.  I'm sleeping like crap, too. 

 

My nearly 5-year-old is that kid that NEVER sleeps so I've been pretty much sleep deprived for the past 6 years or so. 

 

I'd finally got him to sleep without waking up a ton but now he kicks and thrashes all night and he's in bed with us because he refuses to sleep alone.  

 

(I'll probably go sleep with the baby on his queen bed in his room) 

 

Now I am exhausted at 5 p.m. and try to snooze for a few minutes but that gets me nothing.  I fall asleep around 9 and wake up every 2 hours or so. 

 

I usually end up reading a book on my phone until I fall back to sleep. 

post #3 of 18
Thread Starter 

Ugh, that sounds so rough. Sometimes I can't sleep even with the quiet, solid sleeper that is DH. Just something about being near another person makes me restless, so I move to the couch or the futon. 

 

DD has slept through the night on and off since she was 13 months old but only really reliably since February, when she finally emerged from the 18-month sleep regression. So there was a very brief period where I started to catch up on sleep and feel human again after almost two years of despair. Now it's all gone again. Sigh. A lot of this has been not because of her, but because of my own insomnia. I hate feeling like my body is betraying me. It NEEDS sleep--so why won't it?

post #4 of 18

In the same boat here too.

 

Just recently night weaned DS and it's going splendidly. He sleeps from 8 or so until 5:30 in the morning without making a peep. On the other hand, I can't ever seem to get comfortable and I have to go to the bathroom a lot. I intentionally dehydrate myself in the evening to avoid going to the bathroom. We are living with my parents while looking for a house and I have to walk what feels like a mile, in the dark, to the bathroom. Ugh! DS wakes up at 5:30 to nurse, which he does off and on until 7am -- insisting on groping the other breast the whole time. I wish I had stopped that habit at the beginning, because he goes ballistic if I don't let him. I can't sleep when he does that, so I just lie in bed many times needing to pee. Then I can only nap for his two hour nap during the day and the rest of the day I feel like a zombie! Man, when I was pregnant the first time I just slept anytime, anywhere. It's so different when you have an LO to take care of! 

post #5 of 18

I feel like I can sleep all the time right now, but it seems like once I fall asleep I have to get up to pee or tend to my 2 1/2 year old DD. She has never slept well. Lately it has been a little better but I think she will just be one of those kids that always has a hard time sleeping through the night. I just try to nap during her nap time the next day. That at least keeps me sane. wink1.gif I hope you all start to get better sleep!!! 

post #6 of 18
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Yeah, thank all that is holy that DD still takes fairly reliable 2-hour naps. Of course, I'm sure I just jinxed it. But that's saved me the last couple weeks. I feel like the only thing worse than a non-sleeping baby is a sleeping baby and a non-sleeping mama :)

post #7 of 18

I take unisom, doxylamine succinate one, for morning sickness and to help sleep. I would be a non sleeping basket case w/o it.

post #8 of 18

Melatonin is okay in pregnancy? I haven't looked it up yet. I take 25mg of Benadryl sometimes. But regardless of whether or not I wake up to pee (which usually happens at least once a night), I have hardly had a sound night's sleep in eons. Since even before I ovulated prior to this pregnancy. To me, it's very frustrating. I'm a birthworker, and after being gone about 2 days for a birth (with just a 2-3 hour nap in the middle of that labor/birth), I came home to sleep for oh, maybe 4 hours straight. Argh! I need to feel refreshed -- I long to feel refreshed, but sleep does not do it for me. I am going to purchase some Floradix to help with the fatigue. Not that I have really low iron, but I am not a meat-eater and I suppose it won't hurt anything. I need all the "boost" I can get. : \

post #9 of 18
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Mamatoabunch--Huh, I always thought Unisom was the same as Benadryl. I wonder if doxalymine succinate would work better than diphenad-whatever.

 

Rebekah7--Melatonin has not been studied in pregnancy, but my OB and the midwife I later switched to both said that it was presumed safe and were not concerned about me taking it. I take about 3 mg before bed. I used to take 1 mg and found that to be just as effective, but couldn't find it at the store the next time.

 

Last night I feel like I had something approaching a "normal" night's sleep for the first time in weeks (the last two weeks, I think because I've had a cold that won't let go, were just brutal--on a "good" night I was up 4-5 times and slept lightly in between, rather than being solidly awake for 2-3 hours in the middle). At any rate, I slept solidly from about 11:45 to around 5 a.m., and then after a while got back to sleep for a couple hours. I feel like a new person!!!!!!! (Though had 2 pregnancy dreams, including one that I gave birth to a 15-pound baby boy.)

post #10 of 18

I haven't slept well in probably 10 years. LOL So I'm no one to give advice.

 

Mostly I think I've adjusted to it and I do every now and then (maybe once a month or less) take a unisom or melatonin and that sometimes helps. Mostly I just go to bed with my little boys around 8:30pm and figure whatever I lack in actual sleep I make up for in sheer time laying down in bed...LOL

post #11 of 18
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Originally Posted by Blanca78 View Post

Mamatoabunch--Huh, I always thought Unisom was the same as Benadryl. I wonder if doxalymine succinate would work better than diphenad-whatever.

 

 

There is two kinds of unisom, it is the sleep tabs, not melts and gels. Doxy is the same ingredient in diclectin w/ b-6 prescribed in Canada as a morning sickness med.

post #12 of 18

With a toddler who still nurses 1-2 times per night, I too am sleeping a lot less soundly than I'd like.  One thing I have noticed though... I bought some magnesium bath flakes and made it up in a spray bottle.  When I remember to spray it on the soles of my feet before going to bed, I seem to sleep a lot more soundly.  I wake up to nurse, pee, etc., but seem to sleep a lot deeper.  Magnesium is supposed to be great for a lot of things during pregnancy!

post #13 of 18
Oh this chick right here! I have no problem sleeping when I shouldn't be, but as soon as i found out (which will be my second child) I became nocturnal !!!
post #14 of 18
I have had very annoying night wakings for awhile now - I wake up a few times a night to pee/drink water or because of 2yo DD calling out in her sleep, but generally fall back asleep. Its in the hour of 4 that I pretty much wake up every night at and can't get sleep for anywhere from 30 min to 2.5 hrs or sometimes at all. I toss and turn and all the weight of all my issues/worries come up then and it takes me ages to fall back asleep. Then DD wakes up anytime from 5-6 and nurses forever, which I can't sleep through anymore due to her busy hands (totally feel you on the nipple twiddlin htovjm!). I don't know what is wrong with me. DD and DP both lay there next to me soundly asleep and I'm lying there sabotaging my only chance to catch a decent amount of sleep! It's brutal.
post #15 of 18
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Originally Posted by LLtheTinkerbell View Post

I have had very annoying night wakings for awhile now - I wake up a few times a night to pee/drink water or because of 2yo DD calling out in her sleep, but generally fall back asleep. Its in the hour of 4 that I pretty much wake up every night at and can't get sleep for anywhere from 30 min to 2.5 hrs or sometimes at all. I toss and turn and all the weight of all my issues/worries come up then and it takes me ages to fall back asleep. Then DD wakes up anytime from 5-6 and nurses forever, which I can't sleep through anymore due to her busy hands (totally feel you on the nipple twiddlin htovjm!). I don't know what is wrong with me. DD and DP both lay there next to me soundly asleep and I'm lying there sabotaging my only chance to catch a decent amount of sleep! It's brutal.

This is almost EXACTLY what I'm going through, except DD wakes up later (thank goodness). Even when I am sleeping, it's very light/restless. It's hard not to resent DH when he is snoozing blithely away. 

post #16 of 18

I could have written your post, LLtheTinkerbell. I have been going through the same thing! Even the 4am mysterious waking. I am refusing to let DS twiddle now though. It was killing my sleep in the morning! I hold my hand over the other breast and just say no...there have been a few tears but he is getting used to it. I also find that if I roll him off of me after 20 minutes or so of morning nursing and sing to him or just cuddle him, he will accept that nursing is over and I can get a few more winks of sleep. I am finding my very demanding little nursling to be somewhat willing to accept boundaries! Thank the Lord! It's giving me just a little more sleep, and I need it!

post #17 of 18
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Just had to say I feel like I had my first decent night's sleep in weeks last night. It's amazing how much more positive it can make one feel. I managed to fall asleep by 10:30, which is early for me. Woke up around 3 and was up for a little while (maybe half an hour) and then slept soundly until 7:30 or so--amazing! Complete with rich, detailed dreams--always a bonus.

 

I wonder if going to bed earlier helped? Lately I just have so much trouble getting to sleep before 11:30 or so--by the time we get DD to bed and unwind, it's late and I start to get a second wind. Ugh.

 

So what I did last night was take 2.5 mg of melatonin and some magnesium and a benedryl, about an hour before I went to sleep. Also took a bath. I hate taking a veritable medicine cabinet, but I'm desperate. I think giving that stuff an hour to kick in helped.

post #18 of 18
Htovjm I do the hand thing too!! She's used to it now. Still can't sleep through it though.

Blanca78 sounds heavenly!!! Going to bed earlier is probably the best way to get more sleep with LOs around. Only prob is it seems to cut into what little grow up time we have...

I think DD must be going through a growth spurt because she had a monster nap yesterday (4.25 hrs - unheard of! Of course I was at work so didn't get to take advantage of it and rest myself :/) then this morning I actually had to wake her up at 8! Then another 3 hr nap today! I hope I haven't jinxed us but my fingers are crossed tht she starts sleeping in a little later - even 630 would be fine! I think if I knew she wasn't due to get up so early I might have more luck getting back to sleep at that cursed 4 am time!
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