My 3.5 year old daughter is OBSESSED with "mans"- specifically Daddy. She pretends she is a boy all day. She loves to be with Daddy and do everything just the way he does. She talks about gender differences all the time, for example saying, "So nurses are ladies but doctors are mans. I want to be the doctor." We correct her gently explaining that she can be anything she wants to be and plenty of women are doctors. She has a good understanding of anatomy and clothing differences. She loves sports (though not very athletic) and cars and goes crazy for tractors. She has preferred males over femals since infancy- I remember the sound of Johnny Cash would soothe her during colicky crying fits. Her father, due to work, has been away off and on for nearly half of her life so I've essentially been a single mom.
On the flip side, she also quickly identifies herself as a girl. When Grandpa exclaims "Oh boy!" she quickly says, "I am a GIRL" and seems to think it is so odd he would say that. :) She loves ballet, and while not very girly in her fashion choices she wears dresses on her own accord. She likes to paint her nails and play makeup from time to time. however, if someone gives her a shirt or baseball cap a boy would wear she is over the moon with happiness.
She is an enigma to me! She is very bright, preferring adults to children; she loves the Sound of Music and likes the stepmother from Cinderella (the only princess-type movie she's ever seen). And she could be read to for hours if someone would be willing.
What should I make of her current boy/man interests? I can't even remember how I played at that age, so I feel like I have nothing to draw on.... Is she gender confused? Thanks for your input and advice!