Ok mamas.... I'm a FTM and DD is 19 weeks old now. We've co-slept since day one and always intended on doing so. Hadn't decided on how long we wanted to keep a family bed, but knew we were committed to it for the first several months, at minimum. But DD is an extremely active, gassy, fussy, LOUD sleeper. (In fact, the wonderful nurse-doula-midwife-in-training-superwoman who cared for Margot during her jaundice-related stay in the nursery quipped "SHE'S going to be an interesting one to sleep with! ha.) She hit the dreaded 4 month growth spurt + wonder week combo and now wakes every FORTY MINUTES to nurse at night and will not tolerate side lie nursing anymore. She must be cuddled. To top it off, I made the mistake of introducing a didi to her back at the 2 month "regression" and that's become a sore issue as well- she spits it out constantly, then spends all night rooting for it or me all night long. I am beyond exhausted- the kid has never slept longer than a 3.5 hour stretch (once!)- but trying to be patient. I know she needs me and despite what sleep training manuals say, babies really should be nursing frequently through the entire first year. I know this. And yet I find myself obsessing. I'm tired, baby will barely tolerate time with her dad, I'm stress eating like mad, and am a total biyotch to my husband. It's sort of a nightmare.
What do I do?! We've talked moving her to her own crib to give us adult alone time, but I'm really not ready and I know for sure she isn't either. (DH is totally cool with cosleeping- it was his idea!- but is distraught over how demanding baby is on me.)
I need ideas on how to set limits while cosleeping- like, she won't sleep unless I'm right.there. How can I gently urge her to be okay with me setting her down and sneaking off to work out or have a shower? How to get rid of the blasted dummy? How to gently limit nursing at night? (She eats every two-three hours during the day, so it's not like she's making up for not eating. Currently she's been waking WELL over five times a night. Crazy!) I've been working a bit on having a more structured nap rhythm- we've spent the last three weekends traveling and on the go, so I'm taking time to hunker down at home with baby and settle into a better nap routine..... Hopefully, by doing that and working on getting her down a bit earlier for bedtime (she goes down at 8 now, but I want to do it closer to 6:30) we can sort out enough of our sleep "issues" to make the family bed work out for us.
Any input? Anyone else struggling with this or something similar?