Our bedtime routine consists of bath, snack, brush teeth, books, lights out & mommy or daddy lays with our 2.5 yo DD in the dark until she falls asleep. We usually start the routine about an hour before lights out. But it is driving me crazy that one of us has to lay in the dark with DD for anywhere from 30 mins (on average) to an hour. Usually it takes an hour if I move bedtime earlier. If I move bedtime later it still takes about 30 mins. And it has to be dark. If lights are on she won't fall asleep. Is this normal? Is there any way to change this? At nap time she is usually asleep with 15 minutes. Why is it so long at night? I am too tired and restless to sit in the dark for this long each night. Any advice is appreciated.