Originally Posted by vc2013
ugh, we gotta send out the baby shower invitations this week or else it ain't happening!! i can't for the life of me think of anything to put on my registry, it's all so damn overwhelming. DF is organizing so i don't have to deal with EVERYTHING about this, but i really think this registry thing is stupid. i'm gonna be a first time mom, how can you ask me to ANTICIPATE my or the baby's needs? i have NO IDEA if we need diaper powder, butt paste, diaper service, pacifiers, a blanket, ... anything really. i hate how there is always so much controversy about every little thing you can possibly buy.. some people do pacifiers, some don't (and think it's horrible to do so). i'd think a blanket is the most neutral thing in the world but oh no, the dangers of suffocation.. diaper service, just as much as disposable diapers or a huge waste of money? everything baby-related is SO POLARIZED!!! WHY is that? why does there not seem to be one person out there who says whatever you do is fine, or things will fall into place, or just take it one day at a time and you'll figure this whole baby thing out? i put a breast pump on my registry and felt pretty good about it, but the doula i spoke to recommended i take it off the list again since i'm not sure whether i'll be returning to my job. that was like the only "real" thing on my list.
other than that.. meeting with a doula agency tonight to find the right doula for us. will need to have the financial talk with DF soon (are y'all discussing what to put into place for your baby, savings account, trust, college fund, anything along these lines?), then at some point soon get my car all fixed and cleaned out, then tackle all the other bigger tasks on my to do list. goal is to get one big thing done per week. i'm not worrying about getting the nursery curtains hand-washed in time etc, those things can still be done when baby is here. but if the car doesn't get fixed ($$$?), we can't install a car seat, thus not take the baby home from hospital, so some things are essential to get done in time.
Yep, this was me for sure, my registry was pointless the first time around. We returned more then half. I like that you aren't as concerned with the "nursery" home decor-- it really doesn't matter that much. Blankets, pacis, bottles, breast pumps are all things you can RETURN if you don't use. You should have SEEN the pile of gear I returned with my first. The things I recommend are very minimalist, and mostly things you will probably use. I'll also direct you to a great blog entry about all the crap you don't need. Because guess what? There is a LOT. It's a very polarized thing I think because most baby gear/products are unnecessary and even unsafe. It's pretty funny that products which claim to reduce SIDS are just flat out lies, SIDS from my research has more to do with genetics then a stupid product. It's really quite strange!
My must haves:Carseat:
Personally I'm not wasting my money again in a seat that goes into a stroller. DD grew out of it (she has long legs) and was MUCH better off forward-facing around 2yo. She *hated* the car. Still can't do long trips. No way to know this till your kiddo is here, tho. So I'd rather get a convertible seat which goes from 5lbs to 70, rear and forward facing. Best bang for your buck but wont fit into a stroller. Britax Marathon is the best selling seat. I got that one. I personally have a BIG issue with continuously leaving an infant or older baby in a carseat for prolonged periods. I've read a few studies about restriction of airflow. What I'll be doing this time around (DD1 barely ever slept in her carseat) is taking DD2 out of her seat, even whole asleep I guess, and popping her in a sling/wrap where hopefully she will sleep longer and better anyhow. And I can nurse too! We will see how that goes... Which leads into my next recommendation...Sling/moby/maitai/ergo:
Buy them! Get lots of them! Some are pretty pricey but oh so worth it! I've met very few babies who don't like to be carried on mama. IMHO it's the mama being more uncomfortable with having a baby attached to her for long periods of time, I know that can be hard to get used to, I've had VERY sore shoulders and back but the alternative was trying to get baby into a stroller or daddy, and that just wasn't happening sometimes. TheBabyWearer.com is a great site to figure out what you want. To start, I'd go with a Moby, which you can now find in Target and some sort of pouch sling, or ring sling. And ergo would be even better, but they are not less than $100. I got my ringsling used on Diaperswappers.com. LOVE IT and it was barely used, I think I paid $40!Baby monitor:
I personally love mine, not just for sleeping, I use it sometimes when I need to go to the darn bathroom and the 3yo is playing in her bedroom or mine, so I can hear what she's doing. You don't need a video one, but if you'd really like one, I get that. I also cosleep, so I've never used it for overnight, and personally, would not trust it. My DD has LOTS of wake ups at night when I wanted to stay up with daddy, so that's what we used it for primarily. But I still don't trust the thing 100% and have had times where I didn't hear DD and she was SCREAMING her head off. It happens. But luckily, a lot less with a monitor. Plus-- the faster you get back in to put baby back to sleep, the easier it is to keep it that way.Miracle blanket:
Really, the only blanket I liked for swaddling! My DD loooooved being swaddled and slept amazingly doing it overnight up till around 4-5 months! I used nice stretchy thin blankets during the day and she was a pro at escaping it, though you could tell, really loved being wrapped. This time, I might use it around the clock, but mostly for sleeping. Here's a link: http://www.miracleblanket.com/
The Happiest Baby on the Block is a GREAT book for fussytime, I loved the techniques and still use white noise to this day. Here's a great set you could put on your registry:
According to what I've read, the preventative care act (or affordable care? not sure...) says insurance companies provide these? I guess you'd have to find out. Even if you aren't going back to work, I personally think pumping a supply for the freezer is a good idea in case of god forbid, an emergency. Every now and then, you'll want to go out, or get extra sleep on the weekends. Having daddy or grandma or auntie feeding the baby is a great bonding experience for them, and good for baby to drink ONLY breastmilk (my personal opinion here) for at least the first 6 months. My DD had only 1 drop of formula at a breasfeeding consult funny enough-- I chose to not supplement. But I didn't go back to work till DD was 11mo. and it was freelancing from home. She was exclusively breastfed and this baby will be too.
Put supplies for the pump you want to get on your list. Breastpads for leakage are great. Make sure you get a hand breast pump that you can keep with you if you go out without babe, nothing worse then feeling full and not being able express milk. Get a few good nursing bras (don't cheap out, Target ones are HORRID) I hear Bravado is the best, but I'm waiting for mine to come in the mail!
Also-- a nursing cover is a nice thing (I never used mine though, it distracted DD) as well as nursing tanks.
A nursing pillow is a MUST. I still use it, it's DDs special pillow and she loves her boppy. I went with a more lux brand (Luna Lullaby Bosom Baby) this time and got an amazing deal here:
I also suggest getting an armchair pillow for upright nursing in bed:
http://www.amazon.com/Brentwood-Originals-Drift-Plush-Bedrest/dp/B004PGM49K/ref=lp_3732021_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1373061137&sr=1-4Glider/Recliner that rocks:
Such a must have! You need a place where baby will just sleep on you-- sometimes for hours. It can happen during growth spurts and you'll be so tired from nursing round the clock, you'll just end up passing out with baby to nap. I got mine from Living Spaces!
Yep, you can get a bumbo seat, swing, baby gyms, wipe warmers etc etc. But I found I didn't really use that stuff. I made a playmat this time. Bumbo seats don't help baby sit up before they are developmentally able. My DD hated and I mean HATED the swing, she liked my arms better. I'd stick with practicals, like receiving blankets, clothing, pacifiers, bottles, (you can have some around and not use them, it's OK!), baby utensils and sippy cups are great, you'd be surprised how in love with a spoon a 6 month old is! Same with toys, toys are great, put lots of them on your list and return the ones baby doesn't like! Nightlights, I liked to have one to get up to nurse. Those are just a few you can add to the list which are inexpensive.
I'd get a baby bath, because it's hard to bathe a squirmy worm. It's nice to be able to do it in the sink, and to do it in the bath, here's one that I liked which is VERY simple:
You don't *need* a stroller. Your baby might hate it. Mine did. I didn't get her into one on a regular basis till she was over 1 years old. No joke. And it was a jogging stroller... lol I never ever used it. I didn't like forcing her to sit in it, so I just would babywear instead. But this is my experience. We aren't bothering with this baby at all!Diapering:
For me, cloth diapering a newborn is HARD. They need changes SO often. I waited until DD was 3mo, I might not wait that long this time around, but am not diapering a newborn. My favorite place to shop for cloth diapers is cottonbabies.com. Right now they are having a sale on bumgenius, which I LOVE as well as the flip system with regular old indian cotton prefolds. Get the diaper service, they are AWESOME and more so if they are FREE!
Yikes this is a LONG post. That's it for now... another thing that we are doing is tinting our car windows for extra privacy while nursing. That's really not something you can put on a registry, but a nice thing to have while nursing in the car!Edited by tillymonster - 7/5/13 at 3:13pm