For our registry we basically have the following:
- Clothes. Because it's an online registry and we want to make it easier for our friends, so we're just pointing them towards gender neutral stuff.
- Baby carriers. A relatively wide selection (couple of SSC, couple of woven wraps)
- Cloth diapers and related stuff. A lot of this. Basically one of each type of diaper I found that is 100% natural fibers against baby's bum, a few cute covers and other diapering related stuff. This would be what we really need to, so that we can try out different types of diapers and figure out what we like before we build our own stash (for the first month or so we're going with a diapering service) - though to be honest, I doubt we'll get many of these, since they're not "cute".
- Couple of other small necessities:thermometer, nail cutter, swaddling blanket, etc
And that's it. The big ticket items we'll get pre-birth (car seat and bassinet / cradle / cosleeper) we'll get at the end of this month when my parents visit. Other big things, like a stroller, we don't even know if we'll need or want, so no point in adding them.
Originally Posted by mrsandmrs
Wow, I am shocked that so many new dads go back to work so quickly. My DW is planning on taking 12 weeks off - basically, every minute we're legally entitled to. Granted, we're having two babies at once, but our older kid is 17 and and needs little from us in terms of time/attention/parenting. Our babes are really lucky ones, I suppose.
We're taking our maximum leave time too. 20 weeks for me (8 unpaid), and 12 for my husband (8 unpaid too) - DH is going to try to see if he can split his leave (1 month when baby is born, 2 when I go back to work), which would have to be an informal arrangement with his manager; if that doesn't work out, then he'll take vacation days to get at least 2 weeks when the baby is born, and then take his full leave when I go back.
Originally Posted by vc2013
other than that.. meeting with a doula agency tonight to find the right doula for us. will need to have the financial talk with DF soon (are y'all discussing what to put into place for your baby, savings account, trust, college fund, anything along these lines?)
Sort of. We have a decent chunk of money saved up right now that's on hold till after our paternity leaves, since we're taking unpaid time off. After that we need to figure out what our plan for savings going forward is - put it all towards our mortgage to try to eliminate debt, or start a savings account for the little tyke. Trust and college funds are out of the question for us, since we intend to move out of the US at some point in the next 10 years or so, and there's a good change we would lose all tax advantages related to those.