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Sugar is my drug, emotional eating ~ I'm in it deep lately =(

post #1 of 18
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Hey y'all,

 

I searched, I coulda sworn there was a sub group for emotional eating... couldn't find it. 

 

I'm addicted to sugar, first choice ice cream.  I've done a lot of work on myself and around this and honestly it seems to have a bigger grip on me than ever.  Seven months ago I pulled my back (again) really badly.  Since then I feel like I got knocked off my healthy eating, working out track and walked away from it.  I've been eating like I did when I was in High School biggrinbounce.gif for the past 7 months. 

 

While I'm happy as heck I haven't gained weight (30 lbs to loose, but didn't go up at least), I know how very unhealthy this is.  I KNOW about healthy eating, that it's better to be alkaline then acidic, that cancer cells thrive in sugar, that I feel best when I get lots of green smoothies and green juices in. 

 

And when I was in so much pain for 3 solid months with back pain, it's crazy, but I wanted to give myself that 'break'.  When there is stress between my husband and me, when I feel lonesome, when I feel stressed, and then there's just the plain big 'ol sugar cravings.

 

I would love to find some peace with this.  Some things to DO instead of eating ice cream.  I've heard people go exercise and that's what I would have done in my youth, but I'm so tired, it would take a fire to get me moving redface.gif when I'm in the 'zone'.  I have about five books on the topic and haven't read a one. 

 

Is anyone else out there in the same boat or been in the same boat and gotten off?  love.gif

 

Thanks!

post #2 of 18
Hugs! I can only say that good old distraction is my best defense in this case. If I am not up and out and actively engaged in something AWAY from my kitchen and TV ( especially during PMS), then I am actively craving sugar. I hate that it is so black and white for me, but I have to accept that. Moderation is just too close to impossible. The very hardest to beat is my desire to escape rough moments with a little something sweet. Fighting with hubby? Eat sugar. Kids being difficult? Eat sugar. UGH! fortunately the only sweets at home are what i make from scratch on occasion, and are far less sugary than most. And keeping my kids with me all day helps, since I am not very liberal with their sugar intake.

Good luck to you (us)! I look forward to reading advice from others.
post #3 of 18
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Originally Posted by Weisabunny View Post


 

Is anyone else out there in the same boat or been in the same boat and gotten off?  love.gif

 

 

Been there, in fact I still am.

I just made peace with the fact that I like sugary food. My favourite are baked goods. I don't care much for candy and I only have ice cream once in a while.

 

It might seem odd, but my solution was to have the food that I like available when I wanted it. In time, I just started losing interest and sometimes frankly I just crave a fresh apple, even if I can have a donut instead. Sweets became just another food for me.

 

Cancer scares and obesity related diseases are way exaggerated, IMO. Recent studies prove that fat is good for your body, that being what is considered moderately overweight is actually better than being of normal weight, that too much inhibition can lead to overeating later on.

 

My advice would be to enjoy your ice cream! I would have some every day if I were you! The only thing I would do is not have any distraction when I'm eating, no TV, computer or book, just paying attention to the food. Just sit down and enjoy! You might find you are eating less when you give yourself permission to enjoy your food.

post #4 of 18
I am in the same boat, too. I'm at a loss at this point with trying to find a solution... I've tried everything I can think of to beat my emotional eating and sugar addiction. Years of therapy, pharmaceutical interventions, mindfulness, scheduling/planning my days out meticulously... I've beat the habits and then relapsed more times than I can remember... I wonder if I'm ever destined to kick this or if I'll be overweight forever? Now that I have a child, it seems next to impossible to keep my emotions in check enough to control my eating. So frustrating! I find myself reaching for food the second my daughter gets to bed... because I'm so stressed by that time and have no opportunity for mindful eating while she's awake. I wish I could break this cycle.
post #5 of 18
For me (I struggle with sugar overeating which is compounded by a love of baking!), it took a 21 cleanse (The Quantum Cleanse) to make a good dent. I love having rules so when I had a rule "no refined sugar!" and an endpoint "21 days!" I really kicked the worst of the habit to the curb. Now that the cleanse is over, I eat sugar again but I don't feel like I "have" to or that I'm craving it. I could eat fruit too, but since I enjoy cooking and baking so much, some sugar eating is ok. It is still easy to fall of the wagon but I still feel more in control. "I did it for 21 days, I don't need it tonight!"

The quantum cleanse might be really extreme for some (basically its a vegan, glutenfree, sugar free, alcohol free and caffeine free cleanse), but it was great for me. I lost 6 pounds and got remotivated to be veggie/vegan, and got better at being intentional with food. Not bad for 21 days!

Good luck!
post #6 of 18
Oh god, I need you ladies right now! hug.gif
I have a 27 month old DD and am almost 38 weeks with baby number two. My vice is chocolate, hands down. Like a couple of you said, my vulnerable time is after bedtime. I was doing well for a while by baking whole wheat, very low sugar (sweetened with stevia) muffins involving a ton of frozen fruit and a handful of chocolate chips. They were yummy and pretty satisfying. I need more exercise too but walking more than 5-10 minutes gets me exhausted and a little woozy. I'm just surviving until baby makes an appearance and hope to get back on the wagon after the pp recovery period. I'm just SO happy to find this thread and know I'm not alone. I do like the 21 day cleanse idea but I'd modify it to eliminate my worst offenders and leave more of our staples intact.
post #7 of 18
I'm a chocoholic too! Hands down that's my biggest craving... I did a 21-day detox cleanse by Standard Process earlier this year and only made it to day 14 I think. I felt AMAZING while doing it -- truly the best I've ever felt in my life -- but once carbs and sugar re-entered my diet, I went downhill so fast like you wouldn't believe... I think I have a severe case of Candida ruling my life. Grr. And guess what happened after the cleanse? Sure, I had lost 10 lbs while doing it, but I gained another 25 lbs back within mere months afterward... I couldn't stop eating! The short-term deprivation of addictive foods sent me in a frenzy afterward to consume consume consume. I'm hesitant to go on a cleanse again for that reason. I think I may call up an ED clinic nearby today to see if I can get some help for my binge eating again. I've had the best results with a good support group, but I haven't been in therapy in a while ever since my daughter arrived (1-1/2 years ago) and I've had so little time to make it to appointments between work, school, and home life. :( I wish my DH had the right things to say and/or could just listen to me pour my heart out when I need it, but he's not that kind of person, so I NEED outside support. Talking is so important for my maintaining a healthy relationship with food. Do others of you find that talking is a major help too? I keep it all in so much.
post #8 of 18
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Originally Posted by birdhappy85 View Post

I'm a chocoholic too! Hands down that's my biggest craving... I did a 21-day detox cleanse by Standard Process earlier this year and only made it to day 14 I think. I felt AMAZING while doing it -- truly the best I've ever felt in my life -- but once carbs and sugar re-entered my diet, I went downhill so fast like you wouldn't believe... I think I have a severe case of Candida ruling my life. Grr. And guess what happened after the cleanse? Sure, I had lost 10 lbs while doing it, but I gained another 25 lbs back within mere months afterward... I couldn't stop eating! The short-term deprivation of addictive foods sent me in a frenzy afterward to consume consume consume. I'm hesitant to go on a cleanse again for that reason. I think I may call up an ED clinic nearby today to see if I can get some help for my binge eating again. I've had the best results with a good support group, but I haven't been in therapy in a while ever since my daughter arrived (1-1/2 years ago) and I've had so little time to make it to appointments between work, school, and home life. greensad.gif I wish my DH had the right things to say and/or could just listen to me pour my heart out when I need it, but he's not that kind of person, so I NEED outside support. Talking is so important for my maintaining a healthy relationship with food. Do others of you find that talking is a major help too? I keep it all in so much.

I haven't cleansed like that, but the rebound binge is a definite concern for me... Especially if I have no talking therapy to support my change.

I have been mostly wheat free and limit grains in general, but have has no weight reduction to speak of.

I do have daily agave nectar in coffee and other unrefined sugars on occasion, but rarely eat anything bad. I keep the bad stuff out of the house and keep occasional sweets to a minimum- special trip for ice cream with kids once a month or so.

I guess I just need more exercise, since I don't want to live on juice and salad alone. I do feel pretty good about my self control for keeping the enemy mostly at bay. smile.gif. We can do this, y'all!
post #9 of 18
I think talking would help me too. I'm in counseling for pregnancy related mood issues and talking out the feelings/thoughts/perceptions behind my moods is really helping so I think I need to apply the same to eating.
post #10 of 18
I used to be a big time sugar addict . I feel that I've kicked it for the most part. Occasionally, I have times where I want something sweet but its not as intense as it used to be. The paleo diet has really helped me. I'm very sensitive to wheat, which is what drew me to the lifestyle. I've done a couple whole 30 challenges. Over the past year and it has done wonders to break the sugar cycle. I use a little sugar in my tea daily and eat a piece or two of fruit. Sometimes ice cream or dark chocolate. I don't even crave chocolate. I could really take it or leave it. I never thought I'd say that. It still hasn't done anything for my weightloss, but I feel healthier. Now, If I can just stop eating chips.
post #11 of 18

As long as your craving for sugar isn't related to some kind of biological reason like diabetes, I guess it's just a matter of persistence and having people to be supportive.  It's like an addiction, like nicotine.  I know what both are like.

 

I have a friend who is mildly diabetic and he gets edgy when his sugar levels get low...

post #12 of 18

I am an emotional eater and often eat chocolate to relieve stress. I found that a short walk and drinking water help remove the desire for sweets.

Also eating 5 small meals a day, helps keep the cravings at away.

post #13 of 18

I tried to give up sugar. I felt like it had a real hold on me. I went paleo for a while and the cravings did stop once I went without for a couple of weeks. But it was always lurking there, the potential. It only took one "slip up" and I was back to craving, only worse because I'd been denying myself so hard. In the end, I realized that I couldn't live that way.

 

I've completely changed my approach now. I allow myself sugar, chocolate, ice cream, whatever I want but I count my calories and stick to my specific daily goals. I can earn more by exercising, so if I feel the need to indulge I'll go for a long walk or bike ride or a long run, etc. Now I can satisfy my cravings but I am not tempted to blow my goals because I know I am "allowed" it and can have more again the next day if I so choose. I no longer feel deprived so I don't feel the need to binge on the stuff. When I would do that before, I was plagued with feelings of guilt and of being a "failure", but I realize now that deprivation is setting myself up for such behaviours. Binging on sugar and "junk" was like a big self-indulgent pity party. 

 

I also have found that since I now allow myself to eat whatever I want (so long as I stay within my daily caloric goals) the stuff doesn't have as much appeal as it used to. I will confess, however, that I am SOOO glad I am "allowed" to have sugar in my tea! I'd given up black tea because I found it much too bitter without sugar. And although I love herbal teas, I was raised half-British and a good cup of black tea with milk and sugar was so much a part of my day!

post #14 of 18
Honestly, if you can transition to low-carb I would do it ASAP. It will take you a year, probably. I was a sugar addict. It's really REALLY hard, but possible! Going low-carb changed my life and added at least 20 years lifespan, I estimate. I'm 45 and feel like 30. I maintain my weight look and feel young, when I see the sugar/carb and preservative stress and damage on so many women my age. And I have no health problems. No pills, not problems at all. I do yoga, super flexible, walk for miles, sleep like a baby. The more you get into low-carb, the better you will feel. My daughter is young and also low-carb and she swears by it too.
post #15 of 18

I know exactly how you are feeling! I also used to be an emotional eater. I would binge on anything and everything that was put in front of me or brought into my house. It took me a long time to find my mojo and get back on track after I had my baby, but I did it and so can you!!! One of the worst parts in my opinion is what happens after you loose a ton of weight? Your body starts to look bad (in my opinion) so I then looked into a how to tighten skin formula and that seemed to help. I think the motivation you need is deep deep within you and just needs to be brought out. Think about wanting to look good for your hubby, not just yourself. Don't you want him to WANT to come home to his sexy wife? That was a big motivator for me. Also may have been because I was cheated on in the past and never want to experience that again! Anyway, I hope you get the answers you are looking for, best of luck!

post #16 of 18

I was/am a sugar addict also.  I have been getting much better, especially lately.  First, I gave it up for a week (not much I know).  After I week I caved in.  Instantly, I started getting cold symptoms and feeling moody after the sugar.  That was really good motivation for me.  Also, I have been ready a lot about Hedonic Adaptation.  Knowing this, I tell myself that I will be just as happy with a piece of fruit than with sugar.

post #17 of 18

I've been my entire life as well. Before I had my daughter I thought it was ok to have a sweet or 2 everyday as long as I was working out, now I think that I could be making some serious fitness progress without my daily 'fix'. I decided to give all sweets (and sugar) up for lent and see how it goes. So far it's seriously been great! I did have one slip up and had one cookie, but I've been strong every other time! Just remember that we're creatures of habit and if you make it a habit to not think or want to eat sweets then you really won't. Try to eat a fruit smoothie every morning and drink a ton of water through out the day.

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