What rules/guidelines do you have about your kid's phone/computer use?
Lately I notice whenever I turn around my D14 is on her phone, either texting or playing some game on her phone.
I don't want to be a text nazi, but I am very annoyed that she spends more time texting her friends than engaging in actual conversation.
A couple of reason this concerns me.
She has an auditory processing disorder. I'm concerned that texting is stunting her already poorly developed social skills. One time I noticed the entire evening she was engaged in a text conversation with someone. When I asked her why doesn't she just call the person the phone, she said "because we wouldn't have anything to say". And yet she had spent the good portion of the entire evening texting back and forth with this person.
Also, there are times when I'd like to talk to her about something, especially when we're in the car going somewhere. Being in the car together is the one of the few times where we can actually spend quality time together. I work full time, so after work there's homework, dinner, chores, errands, etc. There is very little free time that I can devote time to just talking to my girls and I look forward to our time together in the car where we are "forced" to just talk to each other.
But now when we're the car, when I look over at her to tell her something, she's busy texting someone and I know I'm not going to get her attention due to her APD.
I'm looking for a balanced approach here. I don't want to outlaw texting entirely, but yet I feel that my girl is spending waaaaaay too much time texting. Sometimes I wish I could just causally say "hey, look, there's a falcon!" without looking over and seeing her engrosed in some text message and having to keep my thoughts to myself.
Any suggestions? Should I say no texting in the car? No texting at the dinning room table?