We told our kids and our parents right away, followed by close friends and the rest of our family. (and really, if my kids know, they share the news about the pregnancy with pretty much anyone!) I am pregnant with our fourth - and there isn't a lot of hiding it, even at this early stage! I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks in January and we had also told our kids, family and friends right away about that pregnancy. For me, it was a blessing that we had announced it early, even though things didn't work out. Not only did I have a miscarriage and was dealing with the grief/loss of baby (and it took my body 2 1/2 weeks to naturally let go of baby after I found out that baby was no longer viable) , I had hemorrhaged significantly and the physical healing process was really slow and long. I was so grateful that my dear sister mamas knew that I was pregnant and were there for me when things didn't go as expected, supporting me with their wise words and gentle ears, bringing meals to our family, having our children over for playdates, etc. I also do not regret telling my children right away, as they were able to grasp why mama was upset and had a better understanding of what was going on when the miscarriage began - and though it was a very difficult, sad situation, beautiful things came out of journeying through that loss together as a family. When we found out we lost the baby, we set up an altar for the baby, with ultrasound pictures, candles, special pictures/items that the kids made to celebrate the little one that had come and gone. We lit the candles every day until my miscarriage was complete. We cried, we hugged, we sat silently, we talked about loss and grief, we celebrated all that we were grateful for...in the light of those candles and in the light of our loss. So, for me, sharing the news early on is important. I love sharing in the excitement of my pregnancy from the beginning. With our last pregnancy experience, I found a lot of strength and support in my healing process, and if an unfortunate loss happened again, I know that I will be thankful to have the support. And oh my, are we ever sending out positive energy and thoughts, hoping for the very best this time!!
Though I share my pregnancies early on, I can understand why others wait until later in their pregnancies to share. There are so many factors to take into account and in the end, I think that the best time to share is whenever it feels right to you - whether that be early on or later on!