I'm suppoed to be in my BIL's wedding 3 1/2 weeks after I deliver this baby by c-section. It's my 4th, I've never gone into labor ahead of schedule before so I have no reason to believe I will this time.
At about the same time post partum with my 2nd I spent the day on my feet with the baby in a wrap at a craft fair.
How do I handle this with my soon to be sister-in-law? She's sweet and we have a very good relationship so far.
This is what is going through my head. The baby HAS to be with me that day. I just will NOT do it any other way. Too soon to be seperated for me. I did introduce pumped milk in a bottle with my other 3 at this age and it always went well, but at this point it was always just so I could get out for a couple of hours, not for an entire day. Besides, I'd have to pump every couple of hours a most anyway... I've always been an OVER milk producer.
So I can bow out of being a bridesmaide, but I'll still want to have my hair and makeup done since I will be in family photos anyway. It'll still be a VERY long day and a ton to juggle. Then I can spend most of the day with the baby in my arms sitting outside of the reception hall etc.
I can still be a bridesmaide and bring along a trusted friend to basically shadow me and take care of the baby while I do bridesmaide stuff. SHE can sit outside of the reception etc. with the baby and text me when I'm needed.
Or, of course I can stay home... which is insanely depressing.
So I guess I still want to be a bridesmaide. Is that nuts? How do I approach this with my BIL and his fiance?