I am due with baby #2 in November, and we've asked my MIL to be present during our home birth to attend to our 2 year old. I fully trust her, or else we would never have asked her to be present. Although she doesn't fully understand home birth, she is supportive of our choices and wants to learn more. I'm not worried about her bringing negativity at all. (My own mom would be a whole different story...)
So, I am trying to think about how I can prepare her to be at our house during the labor and birth. Her primary role will be to care for our son, so that may mean she is off entertaining him in another part of the house if that's what he wants to be doing. I'll make sure she knows her role, and that our son is welcome to be as involved (or not) as he wants.
So, she could be present in the room for the actual birth or not. Aside from letting her know what her role will be, I want her to be as prepared as possible to understand and be comfortable with what she might see. So far, I have the following things:
-Invite her to a few prenatal appointments with my midwife, including the home visit at 36 weeks
-Suggest she watch The Business of Being Born
-Suggest she watch some home birth videos on YouTube (I'd provide links to specific videos)
I'm also trying to come up with things for her to read that will explain the process of birth (she had two c/s herself) and the importance of the atmosphere of the birth and mental state of those present.
I've read all the most common birth books and have them in my library, but I can't remember which books say what. For example, Ina May's Guide to Childbirth is great, but the second half of the book, as I recall, deals a lot with specific interventions or common practices and why they may or may not be good. I don't know that she really needs that kind of info. Maybe I need to go skim through some of my books to remember what all they contain.
I don't know if I need to ask her to read an entire book or not, but at least I'd love some links to info that will help prepare her. Does anyone have suggestions? Anyone have advice from your own experiences of preparing someone to be present who had little natural birth knowledge beforehand?