3 year old will not. stop. talking.
We're in this club, too. I'm a non-yelling gentle disciplinarian for all types of behavior problems. But the talking - I'm sorry to say that I end up yelling at her almost every day over it. I'm also very introverted, so I REALLY need mental space and get really confuddled if I don't get it.
Things that help us a bit:
* going to places with other people and getting out with friends as much as humanly possible. My DD is most calm and at home at parties with lots of familiar adults
* requiring small amounts of quiet time and setting the kitchen timer to get it - even if she still tried to talk to me, I will not talk back
* having periods in the day where I make a conscious effort to give my DD large doses of non-verbal attention - using body language, facial expressions, silly games, etc.
* reading A LOT
* asking her to sing me songs about things instead of talking to me about them
Got a few more, but I have to go for now!
No advice or useful suggestions just a heartfelt "us too ".
I have a compulsive talker too. Fortunately she's old enough, and responsible enough that she doesn't need quite as much supervision anymore, which allows for the luxury of sending her to another room to play (and talk to herself), or outside to play (and talk to herself). It does get easier to cope with as they get a little older.
Wow, this sounds to familiar! SO much like our DS!! Thanks new mama lizzy for the tips. I'll try some. And mrs.T thanks for the idea about the "listening turn" we talk about the talking turn, but it doesn't work, my little guy just constantly says "EXCUSE ME EXCUUUUUSSSSSE ME, I HAVE SOME THING TO SAY!!!" or "MOMMYDADDY ITS NOT YOUR TURN TO TALK, IT'S MY TURN" thing is that we never actually get a turn. My DH is starting to get really upset about it, and I have to say it is negatively affecting our relationship - we hardly ever talk to each other, and when DS finally goes to bed, neither one of us has the will to listen. For me going to the park it the best.
Good luck - sorry I don't have more advice I am hoping it is a phase, but it's already been about 2 years since he started talking all the time, to everyone, everywhere.
mrs t. I think we are living the same life! I actually always thought I was an extrovert until I lived in a house with both my husband and my son (and I read about the needs and coping skills of introverts and extroverts in "raising your spirited child). Now I know that I am an introvert. I think my DS chattiness is a reflection of his extroverted and extrememly perceptive nature - I also really don't want discourage it, but... Someday we will look back at this and laugh, and if my son heard me say that he'd say... "mommy what's back there, why do you want to look back, is there a silly puppy behind you, is he funny, i met a puppy once, he barked, yeah, but not all the time, only when he was being silly, and my friend finn has a puppy, it's black, yeah, but it is also white, can we get a puppy, why can't we get a puppy, but I want a puppy mommy, mommy did you know they are really soft, yeah puppies are really really soft when you touch them, and sometimes they bit, can we get a baby, nathan has a baby sister, she used to live in nathan's mommy's belly, but not anymore, now she lives in the world, i want a baby, not a toy baby a real baby........................."