Hello all...this is my first post but I have been reading and learning a lot on this forum! This might be a bit long so I apologize in advance! My son has not been tested so I obviously cannot formally say he is "gifted" but he certainly does show many signs of giftedness. I'll list some of the things just so you get a feel for the type of kid he is:
-knew all letters and numbers to 10 by 16 months
-started reading just before 3
-just turned 5 a few weeks ago and is reading at about a Grade 1-Grade 2 level
-has an AMAZING memory and can recall details of things he read or saw in an almost eerie way
-seems to have a sense of humour that is older than his age level (e.g. doesn't laugh hysterically about things like poop or gas like other little boys but finds more humour in things like the misuse of a word for example..well ok - there are still days where he thinks poop is funny, but you get what I mean! LOL)
-he loves to read and spends a lot of time reading each day
-loves writing and writes short little stories with pictures
-loves word searches and can do them independently
-loves to draw - right now his big interest is drawing pictures of the characters from the "Mr. Men" series and making up different stories with them as characters
-has a really active imagination and can play with almost anything using his imagination to have fun
-has a great ear for music and can sing or hum along to songs with great accuracy after hearing a song only a couple of times
-loves learning new facts and learning/memorizing things in great detail...when he gets interested in a new thing he'll read about it, draw pictures, talk about it constantly for about a couple of weeks or so and then move on to the next thing- right now his big interests are the solar system, the continents/countries of the world and dinosaurs
My DS just finished Junior Kindergarten (we are in Canada and school starts at 4 here). He was placed in a mixed class that was largely all Senior Kindergarten children (10 SK vs. 3 JK) so I thought that would be great since he is closer in abilities with the children one year older than his JK peers. Although I wouldn't say that is the same when it comes to social abilities. I've spoken with his teacher quite a few times and she has no concerns with his social skills in the classroom. She said his social skills are very age appropriate. He does great with one on one with playdates - but I find in large group playdates/birthday parties he always seems like the odd man out. He just truly isn't interested in the things the other boys are interested in and will often end up playing alone. The boys in his class are all into playing X-box/Wii and we don't even have a gaming system in the house (not really interested in getting one either). So I do feel bad that he doesn't even know what they are talking about when they all talk about playing Skylanders, Minecraft or other games. We had a large playdate this week with all boys in the class (so my DS was the only 5 year old..all others were 6) and I found him often playing on his own while the boys played video games or rough-housed. During these times my son often found some other toys to play with and began using his imagination to play on his own. One time I heard one of the boys say "that's a baby toy...why are you playing with it?" and all the other boys laughed. My DS seemed unphased by this and continued to play on his own.
So I guess I'm wondering what to do here. I thought I should try and engage him with older children that he may have more in common with - but this doesn't seem to work because I don't find him to be socially on par with these children. At the same time I don't find kids his own age a fit either because of the things he is interested in. So what is the correct solution here? Do I need to find other children for him to play with? Other kids that seem to share his quirks and interests?? Just wondering how other have dealt with these social issues. Or do I try to encourage interests that are more similar to other kids? Of course as a parent I just want my child to be liked and included and it breaks my heart when I see him not being included already at age 5...has me worried for him as he gets older. Obviously I've always had my antenna out looking for signs of something more like Aspergers but I don't think that is what is going on. My DS does have a desire to be included because he talks to me about wanting different toys or games that other boys are talking about at school or wanting to have playdates with the other boys but I don't see it being a good fit with the boys in his class. I also partly feel at fault here because I feel like I should have made more of an effort to get my son into play groups or meeting other children since he did not go to daycare, is the oldest child and there are no children in our neighbourhood. He just never seemed to be missing out on that when we were home since he loved learning so we always filled our days by reading or playing outside/going for hikes. Any advice???
Edited by J1379 - 6/30/13 at 4:02am