Thanks for the suggestions, everyone! Lizbian, Friederike, Mama...
It's been a weird day, that's for sure! After talking about our options this morning (trying today if possible, or just waiting til next cycle at the end of August), we called the sperm bank and just asked how quickly we could get our sperm. (Now that we're doing home insems, we pick up at the bank which is only 10 minutes away.) At first it sounded like it might not be an option for their lab and there would be a $100 rush fee. I must've sounded disappointed on the phone, then, because the service rep asked me if she could check with the lab and also see if they would waive the rush fee. When she came back on the line, she said Yes, they could have our vials ready at 1:00 today and they would waive the rush fee.
When I woke up today, I had a bad headache already. I sometimes get these in sync with ovulation. I ended up calling in sick to work, because of the headache, and because it would give us an opportunity to insem. We picked up the swimmers just after 1:00, and had our first insem done by 2:30. We checked out my cervix before even pulling the vial out of the tank, just to make sure, and it was as open and full of egg-white as it was last time.
As far as the suggestion to go get an US before trying, I don't really have that option right now. At least, not so at-the-last-minute, the way things were today. We are not working anymore with the fertility clinic we had been using last year. My regular doctor could have maybe done it or recommended some place to me, but that may have required more planning. My current insurance also doesn't cover any "infertility" services. Getting an US may be a possibility in the future, but it could require more work than I could do this morning.
DP thinks that last month we may have insemmed at the end of my ovulation, and that's why it implanted but then didn't stay. Going for it early this afternoon seemed like a good idea to me, because I think I will ovulate today. (Based on my charting and my headache, and the medium-dark LH test I had on Tuesday morning.) I know that if this round doesn't stick, I'm going to be "blamed" by DP, because it was my idea to try anyway!! Really, I'm mostly joking. Neither of us wanted to skip this round, but we both wished it had been better planned.
Speaking of better planned... We also found out, in the middle of our insem, that the syringes and catheters that we ordered in bulk actually don't fit together as well as they should! There was not a tight seal, so we had to mess around for quite a while with getting the swimmers in there, and the process involved electrical tape. Very weird. If our kid does come out of this cycle, we'll certainly have a great story!!
Lizbian, congratulations on all the eggies!! How wonderful! The process sounds... not fun. But I'm so glad you've made it through. C'mon little petri dish babies!!
Sandie, please keep us updated with how things go this weekend!! As for purchasing more for siblings, we didn't. We talked about it, but we don't really care if they have the same donor or not. And really, it wouldn't have worked for us to buy more, because we have switched donors since the beginning of this process. If we had purchased more for siblings, I think we would've had to deal with selling it back! Yuck!
Jenny, thanks for the background! That is a really interesting story! It's great that you are going forward with what you feel and what you want for your life, and not letting your relationship status change that. If it's meant to be, it will work out.
Mama - Geez, that's a lot of poking and blood-drawing! Yikes! That's exciting that you are going to discuss IVF options. Especially with your egg and your wife carrying! Both my DP and I would love to do an IVF if I was carrying her egg.
Fmorris - Wow, I read your times for your insems, and was like what? 35 hours before and after OPK? But I forgot you are using fresh swimmers. How nice is that to not have to think in terms of such short life-spans for these little guys?! Best of luck to you in your TWW, and I hope those little swimmers to their job!
Also, tonight at midnight (Aug 1st), same-sex marriage will be legal in Minnesota. Our Minneapolis mayor is so excited that he is officiating 40 weddings at the state courthouse, back to back, starting at midnight. Local vendors have all stepped in to put on a giant wedding reception that is going to take over the courthouse. So incredible!!
This is our mayor, RT Rybak, prepping for the ceremonies tonight. Such a great guy!!
Also starting tomorrow, any same-sex marriages performed in other states or countries, will be automatically valid in Minnesota. I can't wait!! DP and I aren't married yet, but that will be in the cards for us once we get a bun in the oven. But tomorrow, all my lovely friends who have gotten married in Iowa and New York and elsewhere will have equal marriage rights! I'm so thrilled for all of their families, to be safe and legally protected.