My babies had their 2 month check up on Friday (they will be 10 weeks on Wednesday the 3rd)
Honestly I've been going a bit insane with the amount of crying/screaming coming from Owen, occasionally for a whole hour, but more often than not lots of little bursts throughout the day, a need to be constantly held, etc. We have had many a time where he's crying, I'm crying, and my other baby is crying. Lots of crying. The doctor diagnosed him with colic which I know doesn't mean a lot except unexplained crying but it helps me feel better. It's supposed to start tapering off by 2 months and go away by 4....but that's another 2 months I have to endure this. Does anyone have any recommendations for how to deal with colic? He responds pretty well to the Baby Got Colic soundtrack but it's not a cure-all, for example today he cried for about 45 minutes and I tried the soundtrack as loudly as I can make it on our speakers, regular white noise, shhhhing him, distracting him with toys and books, swinging him, carrying him, rocking him, taking him outside for a change of scenery, nothing worked until he wore himself out. I try to wear him as often as possible but it's very challenging because I can't pick up my other baby when I've got him on my chest.
Secondly, Wyatt has torticollis and plagiocephaly. Apparently it's pretty common in twins for them to be so squished in the womb that one side of their neck muscles are tighter, causing them to constantly turn one direction. Besides an obvious tilt, he's developed a flat spot on the back of his head because whenever he lays he favors the one side. This is causing a shift in his skull and a little protrusion on his forehead from the back of his head flattening. Believe me, I'm mortified, although apparently it's common. The doc gave us exercises to do to stretch his neck out, ideas for preventing him from turning to the side he favors when laying, and told us to do lots and lots of tummy time (which he is so not interested in, he'd rather just lay on his belly than try to lift his head up). I also discovered a product that is a little hat with a flexible tube attached to prevent them from rolling to whatever side they favor (It's called the Tortle).
.....I guess part of me just wants to let it all out for a minute. I'm sure others have had babies with worse problems, but to me this feels like the maximum I can handle. It is SO CHALLENGING to have these two problems. Owen is screaming and fussing and needy constantly and Wyatt is mellow and calm but needs to be held and supported so his head gets better. I have tremendous guilt that Wyatt already has a flat spot/protrusion and am so scared it won't get fixed. (I plan on calling the doc again to ask at what point we go the helmet route). I just don't feel like I can give enough time to him (holding him, carrying him, tummy time, exercises, etc) when Owen is constantly screaming bloody murder and needing to be held. I am so torn and I feel completely overwhelmed. A pamphlet the doc gave us about colic says that it's a "two person job" and here I am one person carrying for not only a colicky baby but another baby that also needs to be held and carefully cared for to prevent permanent damage to his head! I feel like there is no solution that will make everyone happy.
I have a little support. My brother comes over a few days a week in the afternoon and my friend comes over on Wednesday mornings. I've reached out to others and I have a few stay at home mommy friends that I'm going to try to set up regular "dates" with to help me keep my sanity and pay attention to both babies' needs. My husband is awesome but he's only home in the mornings before work and in the evenings. More often than not, it's me by myself from 8am - 7pm.
And on top of ALL of this, I have pretty severe diastasis recti and it hurts my belly to have them on it, not to mention it's just depressing all in it self because my belly sticks out like I'm pregnant (and people have asked! When I have infants with me!). I'm seeing a physical therapist in about a week and a half and am moderately optimistic, but I feel helpless right now.
Thank you for listening.