Chelsea - I hope you are feeling better. I'm a big fan of the doppler. Some days it's easier to find a heart beat than others. I try not to use it every day. Some days it can take me 30 minutes to find it and that feels a bit frustrating but others, like yesterday, I actually put it right down on baby and it's really reassuring.
Patti - Not a bad idea for the counselling. I'm waiting for an appointment myself. I know my anxiety levels are really unreasonable. I got really concerned about them and my doctor found some safe-for-pregnancy meds. Normally I'm very anti-meds but I could feel my blood pressure going all over the place as my mind just reeled with all of this and the worry about another miscarriage. We're also an IVF conception, last year I was diagnosed with a bilateral tubal obstruction - so no way for egg to meet sperm other than IVF - and also stage one ovarian cancer (which is causing the obstruction). It's just been such a huge roller coaster, the idea of going through all of that just to have another miscarriage I think has broken me in places. The meds have helped a lot. The doctor is really onside with natural medications so she's kept the dose really really low. Standard does is around 100 mg, and I'm on 25. I don't feel my blood pressure ranging all over the place any more and that makes me feel like although I'm on meds and although I still want counselling I'm hopefully now providing a better environment for baby.
Matti - I'll say it again, I'm a huge fan of the doppler. What I'll also say is that if I thought I could do it without the doppler I probably would have. For me my anxiety levels were just too all over the place. I was not succeeding with any of my coping mechanisms. I was not balancing fear with hope and I was going to really really dark places. I ended up getting a medical grade doppler which I think significantly increased my chances of finding the heart beat as early as 10 weeks. I'm not sure what I would have been like had I not found the heart beat. At the time I was fairly certain that if I did not I could not go to a darker place than my mind had already taken me to. So, for me I decided it was a good idea. I am very happy with my decision but the question of how will you feel if you can't find a heart beat is probably the most important one to ask. Keeping in mind that not finding a heart beat as early as 10 weeks is totally possible and could not mean anything other than the doppler was just not sensitive enough to find it that early.
Question for you ladies:
For the last week I've been interviewing Doula's and I'd really like some input, I'm having a lot of trouble deciding between two.
Doula #1: I really like her, she's a straight shooter, very blunt and straight forward. Which is a great fit for my personality. I know I need someone with a strong personality because I am a strong personality and I need someone who can handle that when I'm in pain and stressed. She does pre-natal education and child birth education. She also teaches hypnobirthing. She does 3-4 pre-natal visits and one post-birth visit. The only downside to her is that she's about 1.5 hours away from us and with a winter birth that is a concern.
Doula #2: She's younger than #1, she's extremely nice and took a lot of time in our interview to really get to know me and was able to draw a lot out of me in terms of things that I'm thinking about for the birth and asked questions that made me think. She does 2-3 pre-natal visits and 2 post-birth visits. She does not teach pre-natal education or child birth education. She's located close to us and our hospital.
There is not a significant difference in cost. Both have access to tonnes of reading materials. Both will work with the RMT I'm also working with.