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post #121 of 444
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Originally Posted by CDsMom1031 View Post

I'm here. I keep having labor dreams and now I'm freaking out. Conner was induced so I'm afraid of not knowing when to go to the hospital when the time arrives. Oy.

 

 

You will know.  Don't worry.  Induction is much different, but you still have your instincts and you are a pretty smart lady!

post #122 of 444
LOL @ the packed toys. Too funny! Yes, Ash, you helped bring some entertainment to my day, thanks. :D Nicole, you will know when to go to the hospital, trust me... Just don't go too early. You'll know what too early is, too. That's my two cents. All of my friends who go too early (when they're barely feeling any pain, able to talk like normal, pretty leisurely early labor) end up getting hooked up to Pitocin just to speed things along.
post #123 of 444
I guess I need to trust myself more. Haha.
post #124 of 444
I'm hiring a doula. This is quite possibly my last pregnancy. I want my vaginal birth. I'll do whatever I have to for it to happen!!! I am woman. Hear me roar! wink1.gif
post #125 of 444

You've got this, Nicole! thumb.gif

post #126 of 444

Rescue drops are awesome ... :)  http://www.bachflower.com/rescue-remedy-information/  I already feel so much more relaxed.

 

I really shouldn't be sitting here lol...

post #127 of 444

Okay random rant. I need to vent. AHHHH

 

I've had my car for 12 years. My first and only. A sedan. It has served me well for the most part. But it has electrical issues we've never been able to figure out. Until recently, they've solely been nuisances. It would require I spend hundreds of dollars to diagnose/fix. No thanks. Lately I'm fearing for my safety a bit more, so I've been thinking of other options. I'm just so fed up with the car and told DH I want to finally get a crossover like I've been wanting for a while. We plan to expand our family, so a larger vehicle is a necessity at some point. Also, I'm tall and hate my low-riding car, I'm sick of putting money into a car I've had forever and don't want any longer, and most of all - I want to feel safe in a car if I'm commuting to/from work every day and am driving a child around! Oh, and did I mention I sure as heck feel entitled to it since I'm working my butt off and we do have the money?

 

So -- I casually asked DH tonight, "When can I get a different car?" and he replied, "When we're done with everything around the house." Umm...... no, that's not gonna fly with me. And I told him so. Yeah, I copped an attitude. I sure did. I'm not waiting another few years until we've invested every dime of our money into this house just so I can get a new [used] car. He kidding me? I told him I fear for my safety in my car, and he goes, "You fear for your safety just breathing," and rolled his eyes. I have so many words I want to call him right now but will refrain. angry.gif I mean really? He has his sports car he bought for himself and paid off just last year. Why don't I deserve something more practical and less expensive and for better reasons than he had when buying his car? I can't even drive his car because he still hasn't taught me how to drive manual after 7 years of being together. rant.gif

 

I sure hope he budges on this. I have real issues when it comes to car safety. It is one of my top priorities. Sure, I'm more paranoid than the average person because I've known an unusual number of people who have died in car accidents. But I don't think that's the issue here. I'm coming from a rational place!

post #128 of 444
Oh, wow. I'd be livid. I would find the car I plan on buying, show it to him, then bug him about it every single day until he gave in.

Men.
post #129 of 444
Yes to more posting- gives me an excuse for study breaks!!!!

Joanie, get your car. I bought a car when I switched to full time. I wanted something with great gas mileage for my commute and I hated dh's car. I wanted to leave the van with him, and I certainly didn't want to commute in the gas guzzling van! So I got a practical, fuel efficient, but brand new Civic. Darn right I earned that car! I'm out of the house working how many hours every day?!

And safety is a totally legitimate concern! I flat out refuse to drive dh's old car for that and many other reasons. Hold your ground.

Look, if you have to withhold sex until he agrees, so be it. LOL!!!


Nicole, you are awesome!!! A doula is a great idea.
post #130 of 444
Coming back from vacation to work five days straight is LAME. And work is dead tonight. Blargh.

Really though, constantly being afraid Conner and I were going to end up stranded on the side of the road is why I retired my 11 year old Taurus. It's a completely legit reason for NEEDING, not wanting, a new car.
post #131 of 444
Yay for validation! I am so going to pursue this new car thing further.

It doesn't help that DH has another 2-day work week. Jealousy and resentment creep up in times like these. Lol.

I found an awesome gluten-free beer that I'm so very much enjoying right now. I love Trader Joe's... Never disappoints.
post #132 of 444
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Originally Posted by CDsMom1031 View Post

I'm here. I keep having labor dreams and now I'm freaking out. Conner was induced so I'm afraid of not knowing when to go to the hospital when the time arrives. Oy.

Lol, I didn't!

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Originally Posted by birdhappy85 View Post

All of my friends who go too early (when they're barely feeling any pain, able to talk like normal, pretty leisurely early labor) end up getting hooked up to Pitocin just to speed things along.

And this advice is why. I talked and sang through contractions until I started pushing with DD. And Shay, well, we all know how that turned out.
post #133 of 444
That is sooo cute Eli packed his toys!

I love rescue remedy! I use the spray and it helps my panic attacks!

Nicole, I'm a birth doula and if you go into labor in the daytime you are welcome to txt me and I can help you decide when to go to hospital if you'd like. smile.gif you can do this!
post #134 of 444
Just missed your post on hiring a doula. Yay!, your doula can really help you know when to go in.
post #135 of 444

Dang, I sure wasn't talking and singing in active labor. I was crying, moaning, and breathing through it all with a few cynical jokes thrown out here and there. Haha. Heck, my contractions were incredibly painful by the time I was only 3 cm. I had my midwife come over too early because the contrax were close together but I wasn't as far along as I expected. My takeaway from that is that I still knew when I was in labor and baby was coming, like how "they" say you will, even if I wasn't sure how long I had to go. You'll "just know" too, Nicole. If you go to the hospital too early, you can always just go back home if they check you and you're not very far along. One of my earlier-said friends who got Pitocin went to the hospital 3x too early (meaning three times in the same evening, lol) and I think the nurses thought it fruitless to turn her away any longer so they just kept her the last time. I don't know if hospitals all do things differently, though, like maybe some won't check your progress and will automatically keep you...? I'm sure others have more advice on that topic than I do! A doula is definitely the way to go, I agree.

post #136 of 444
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Originally Posted by seraf View Post

Lol, I didn't!
And this advice is why. I talked and sang through contractions until I started pushing with DD. And Shay, well, we all know how that turned out.

I almost had the same experience! I heard about all the moms who went in too early when I was pg with my first. I didn't want to be that mom! I waited so long that I got to the hospital at 9.5 cm, just in time to push.

But we will always be here to give advice, Nicole. And Kali is right about the doula helping with that. They have a lot of experience.
post #137 of 444
Oh, me either Joanie! With my first, maybe. With the other two, I mostly just cried, yelled, and cursed. And apologized for the cursing in between.
post #138 of 444
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Originally Posted by TalkToMeNow View Post

Oh, me either Joanie! With my first, maybe. With the other two, I mostly just cried, yelled, and cursed. And apologized for the cursing in between.


Yup, exactly! I also threatened, and left out the apologies :P
post #139 of 444
Ohhh good ole birthing memories...... It's enough to keep me holding off a bit longer on having another...... well, that and the toddler tantrums I'm dealing with nightly this week. Sora has been going to TOWN. If I ever remember to take a photo during one, I'll revive our tantrum photo thread. Never ceases to amaze me that just asking a kid a simple question can send them into cry-mode. Me: Want some water? Her: No! WAAAAAAAHHHHHH *plank on floor*
post #140 of 444
One more thing before I go to bed... Amanda is right that lots of ladies will be here to give advice when the time comes. I, for one, will be glued to my phone/computer in anticipation of labor updates! No pressure, Nicole, but....... don't disappoint. You must keep us in the loop! ;-) heh
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