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post #161 of 444
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Amanda, yeah, I'm not depressed or on meds. I must have said that confusingly. My kids' other mom is 1.5 hours away, so we make that trek weekly or every other. DP's family is 2.5 hours away, and they just realized that its easier for them to come down than us go up.
post #162 of 444
Wait, you get presents for church related baby stuff? Maybe I should rethink my agnosticism.

Sara, I'd do 1.5 hours each way in a day if it were just a drop off. It's the staying all day that makes it too much for me. Plus, it's just not enough time for a good visit since we don't go that often.
post #163 of 444
The maintenance crew is investigating a "rancid odor" lingering around this floor of the office building I'm in. It's really bad, guys. It's bringing me back to my early college days in anatomy and physiology when we worked with a preserved body... yeah, it smells like that. Formaldehyde. Death. What the heck?
post #164 of 444
Amanda, no amount of baptismal gifts will make up for the day I'd have to spend with my family in a religious capacity if we baptized Sora... I'm just so so tired of the guilt trips. When the guilt trips come from a parent, I swear it hits you deep down no matter how much you try to ignore it, in contrast to if a stranger were to dish out the guilt trips. Moms have a way about them... grr.
post #165 of 444
Wow, this place is busy today! Too many personals!

Joanie, get your car! When I decided I wanted a van, I started going out and test driving them and getting info and estimated monthly payments without DH. Once I could prove to him that we could easily afford it, he was in. We sold my old car private party for more than $2k more than any dealership was offering as a trade in and our monthly payment only went up $20. So worth it to me! It did take a lot of nagging on my part, but that's par for the course for us. It's also how I got him talked into the new house!

Speaking of, interest rates are killing us right now! The rate we were quoted a month ago has gone up a full percent since then. So once we finally got the contract through and went to lock in a rate, our payment had increased by $100/month. DH is pissed because we asked the loan officer a month ago if we could go ahead and lock in a rate and he did not recommend it since we hadn't found a house yet. Now, any other banker we talk to (my cousin is a VP at a bank) is telling us we totally should have and could have locked in that lower rate long ago. Ugh! Oh well, I refuse to stress about it. We have a house and I can't wait! We'll close just before Labor Day. DH is already building the bar he plans to put in the basement so he can install it as soon as we're in. Then, housewarming party at our place!!! That is what I miss the most about having up own house. We love to entertain and we've hardly seen our friends this summer since we're always the ones that plan and host get-togethers. Can't wait to have my space again!

Nicole, Greta is jerk too. Maybe we should pin them up together and see who survives? She hits all the time and grabs and pinches my face. And she is relentless. The more I try to get her to stop, the funnier she thinks it is and just makes her do it more and more.
post #166 of 444

Sarah, is it GABA (the amino acid) that helps with mood if you are in a pinch?  Or L-tryptophan?  I have a good friend with depression who takes one or both of these when she is out of her prescription, and she says it can really help.  Amazon sells them, as do most grocery stores.

 

Joanie, I once read that if you keep a brand new car for at least 10 years and a used car for at least four years versus leasing a new car every few years, you'll save $1 million over your lifetime.  I've never done the math, but I would whip out that little nugget of data for your husband.  You are well into the 10-year mark!  I just have one word for you:  TESLA.  Okay, another word:  DROOL.  Can you please get one and give me the drive-by-drive (kind of like Nicole's birth play-by-play)?

 

Jaimee, is there a service in your area that will tend your garden while you are away?  Maybe someone motivated will do it in exchange for free veggies.  Welcome back!
 

I am reading Fairyland right now.  Have any of you read it?  I think it may be my favorite memoir ever.  Ever.

post #167 of 444
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Originally Posted by birdhappy85 View Post

Amanda, no amount of baptismal gifts will make up for the day I'd have to spend with my family in a religious capacity if we baptized Sora... I'm just so so tired of the guilt trips. When the guilt trips come from a parent, I swear it hits you deep down no matter how much you try to ignore it, in contrast to if a stranger were to dish out the guilt trips. Moms have a way about them... grr.

 

I jest, of course. Sorry about the guilt trips. No fun. 

 

Sorry about interest rates, Mal. Can't you pay down a point upfront? Not sure how that works.....

post #168 of 444
We asked about paying down points. The cost wasn't worth it over time. We looked into different kinds of loans too that came with lower rates, but the insurance premiums and increase in closing costs, etc made it not worth it. Oh well.

Joanie, I feel you on the guilt trips. My own mother is a pro at them. It's like an art form for her. And living with her just makes it worse. Another reason I need my space! My brother has started in on me this summer. He commented on something I put on Facebook about the Supreme Court ruling on prop 8. He "hoped to god" I wasn't supporting the gay marriage "agenda". And what abut my faith, blah, blah, blah. I refuse to talk politics with my family because we disagree, so I didn't respond to his comment. He called my mother and questioned her about it! Then put some passive aggressive comment on Facebook about me not wanting to spend time with my family because DH and I were going out of town for the weekend. He is trying to pick a fight with me. I'm not giving into it. I love my family and appreciate them for what they bring to my life, but I do sometimes think there would be much less drama in my life if there was a little distance between us.
post #169 of 444
Mal, Amanda has a good point! (pun intended) We locked in our interest rate ahead of time when we bought our house but we also paid a few hundred dollars to lower it 1/8 of a % I believe. Then we refinanced a few years later and got our interest rate down another 1.125%. You can always refinance if the market stays down!
post #170 of 444
Oh, I should ask you too... Are you paying PMI? We tacked on a few thousand dollars to our most recent refinance loan as a trade-off to paying PMI until we reached 20% equity in the house. When we originally purchased the house, PMI rates were very low. But when we went to refinance, PMI was over double. I wasn't willing to pay over $200/month towards NOTHING. Stupid PMI. Again, if you're able to pay money up front to eliminate PMI, I'd consider it (if you plan to keep the house for more than just a few years, of course).
post #171 of 444
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Nicole, Greta is jerk too. Maybe we should pin them up together and see who survives? She hits all the time and grabs and pinches my face. And she is relentless. The more I try to get her to stop, the funnier she thinks it is and just makes her do it more and more.

 

I'd like to see this. He's EXACTLY the same way. O_O He thinks it's hilarious.

post #172 of 444
I will say though, it's super cute when he tries to throw himself on the ground... Because he's still a big sensitive baby, so he'll lay down really, really slow so he doesn't injure himself in the process. And then by the time he's actually on the ground, it's been so long he's not mad anymore and will just lay there.
post #173 of 444
LOL!!! Too funny, Nicole. Sora is the opposite. She'll risk life and limb to make a scene. Head bang on the floor? No problemo.
post #174 of 444
Anthia, I meant to respond to your post earlier. I've heard really good things about L-Tryptophan too. SAM-e is another supplement that has shown to be as effective - if not more than - prescription antidepressants. Here is some basic info on both: http://www.livestrong.com/article/550381-sam-e-vs-tryptophan/ I've been meaning to try some of those myself. Thanks for the reminder! I'm currently supplementing with more magnesium and fermented cod liver oil w/ butter oil (synergistic together) for the cognitive and calming benefits. I notice HUGE anxiety relief when I'm religious with those. I'm not on my antidepressant any longer and have been functioning better than I did pre-antidepressant. I attribute it to a mix of lifestyle changes and supplements because otherwise I'd normally be a crazy mess of nerves.
post #175 of 444
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Wow gals, the popularity of the name Soren jumped from #622 in 2012 to #65 in 2013 so far! Sara says we are going to change to his middle name. Lol. She said, "Do you want to change your name to Dare?" And he looked right at her and said, "Yeah."
post #176 of 444
Conner just threw a pacifier at my sister. She wasn't paying attention so it hit her in the face. She hit him after it hit her and made him cry. I'm effing livid right now.
post #177 of 444
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Nicole, I'd be angry, too. Did you talk to her about it?
post #178 of 444

Ugh, dh does that sometimes.  It's a reflex, but it sucks.  I always ask him to try and control his reflex reaction- that hitting begets hitting and he needs to be conscious of it.

post #179 of 444
Yeah. I said, "How about you don't hit my kid. If/When I do ever decide to use that as a punishment, it'll be given by me or his dad. Period." And she got all huffy instead of apologizing... Wow. I'm fuming.
post #180 of 444
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You did better than I would have.
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