I suppose our normal is skewed. If I gain 5 ish more pounds, I am technically overweight. But I could look around me and see that I am thinner than 75% of people… that makes it hard to see an issue.
Joanie, that is so awesome that you are working with a nutritionist!!! I am going to join you in the support thread!
With my dsd, she has definitely gained a lot of weight in the last year. We really noticed it at the beach, comparing the pics from the year before. But I would never mention that to her! And I forbid dh from doing so. So that is tough.
I said it earlier, my main struggle is the body acceptance stuff. My gut instinct is to frame the issue with phrases like “society’s ideal of beauty” and “tool of the patriarchy” and “fat is a feminist issue.” So obviously I can’t mention to dsd anything about her weight because then I am “the man.” Yes, I know… I am rolling my eyes at myself right now.
I think the only thing that will unstick my brain is to take weight out of the equation. I know what a healthy lifestyle looks like. So my family needs to make better food choices, control our portions, and be more active.
I also need someone to slap me and tell me to stop over thinking every darn thing.