Both are form-fitting t-shirts with words across the breast area. One says "bite me" with vampire fangs above the words; one says "wink wink." I'm just trying to get other perspectives; dd bought these shirts for herself at the thrift store, and I feel like having those words right on her breasts gives the impression that she's trying to draw sexual attention to herself.
I think she usually does a great job choosing clothes, but I felt concern about those two choices and talked with her last night about my concerns, and asked her to think about the kind of message she might be giving. She felt like I was playing mind games and wanted me to say either "Yes, you can wear them" or "No, you can't."
So I said, okay, then you can't wear them for now and I'll try to get some other perspectives -- not from people who know her but from the other mothers at Mothering. Thanks for any insights you might have. I'm posting this in general parenting because dd was concerned that all the respondents would be old like me, so I explained that some of the moms here are in their 20s. I felt like I'd be more likely to encounter younger moms in general parenting than in the teen forum.