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post #21 of 29
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Originally Posted by Soul-O View Post

You guys are great!  I wish I had consulted all of you before I ever agreed to give this woman a dime!

I will give her a pass on some of the weird behavior because her DH is currently deployed, and goodness knows I didn't always have my head on straight when my DH was deployed.  Thankfully there are other, more sane mamas whom I've befriended in the meanwhile.  There are definite benefits and serious drawbacks to living on a military post, and one of the main drawbacks is having to interact regularly with people like this woman.

Yeah, it seems like living in a smaller community such as this can get a little uncomfortable at times. But as a PP said, I doubt you are the only one she had been irrational towards.
post #22 of 29
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Originally Posted by JollyGG View Post

Honestly the fact that the issue wasn't addressed right away and she waited two weeks to bring it up would make me pretty hesitant to pay.

This seems odd. If she had talked to you right away I might think differently.  But it was two weeks and even then she didn't call you outright, only talked to you when she bumped into you?  Weird.

 

I understand wanting to make things right, if not with her, at least for your reputation.  Half feels generous considering.

post #23 of 29

I also find it VERY convenient that she blames your son AFTER you've left the playgroup...

post #24 of 29
Did your son have anything to say about it? I know at 5 the recollection might be hit or miss, and even if he did spill the burden of responsibility should be on the ADULT owner of the camera, but I'd be curious just the same.
The playgroup sounds like a nightmare anyway. Contracts and mandatory attendence?!? Way to suck the fun right out of a fun kids get together, crazy entitled camera lady!
post #25 of 29

So here is my 2 cents - if a child breaks something of mine at playgroup, I would say something then.  I had one of DS's friends pick up my cell phone (out of my purse) and chuck it into a puddle.  It happened so quickly, there was no time to stop him, and it was zipped up in my purse (he climbed under the bench to get it.  As soon as it happened, I let his mom know what had happened.  Immediately, not 2 weeks later.  It turned out fine, but in this case I did feel the other child's mom had some responsibility mainly b/c a 4 yr old should no better than to go through someone's purse.

 

That being said, in your case I would not pay it.  She could take you to small claims court, but then she would have to provide proof that your child spilled the bubbles, and that all the damages were a result of that incident.  i still think it is odd that she had someone else help clean it up and no one said anything to you.

post #26 of 29
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More replies! Thanks for your input, everyone. I did end up paying the camera lady $80, only because I felt it was a small price to pay in order to keep the peace. I gave her a personal check with "paid as agreed" on the memo line, and she cashed it, so I have proof that she accepted my terms. I don't expect to hear from her again.
post #27 of 29
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Originally Posted by Soul-O View Post
 

  Camera owner responded back to me that I was responsible for 100% of the damages (according to the playgroup agreement that I read and acknowledged). 

 

 

Does the agreement also say you are responsible for your own things? I would just quote that and say that and mention that your offer to pay 50% of the damages provided you get a copy of receipt and she signs that she claims no further damage. Even if it doesn't say so on the agreement, I'd say everybody is responsible for their own things and leaving a camera next to bubbles was not a responsible thing to do. 

 

She can talk all she wants, but no, I wouldn't pay her anymore. 

post #28 of 29
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Originally Posted by Soul-O View Post

More replies! Thanks for your input, everyone. I did end up paying the camera lady $80, only because I felt it was a small price to pay in order to keep the peace. I gave her a personal check with "paid as agreed" on the memo line, and she cashed it, so I have proof that she accepted my terms. I don't expect to hear from her again.

 

You are a much bigger person than me. 

post #29 of 29

This seems really sketchy to me. If it happened at a play date and you were around why didn't she confront you then? I know you said you want to keep your word, but IMHO I wouldn't give her a cent especially because of how she is choosing to handle the situation.

 

If she has this nice, expensive camera that she is choosing to take to a place with lots of little kids running around (and playing with bubbles no less!) she should be more responsible about keeping track of her things or she shouldn't bring them at all.

 

You aren't responsible, your child (of course) isn't responsible, and you aren't even in the group anymore! Forget whatever you signed and tell her to "shove off." If this is how she treats people I'm sure you aren't the only one who will have tension with her in the future.

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