Hi all, I've never posted here before so I'm sorry if this has been addressed already. My specifics are kinda complicated, but hopefully the overall scenario is easy to understand. I'm female and have an ex-wife. We have a 5 y.o. son together. She and I separated 2+ years ago and have been sharing equal custody of our son since then. We have each entered into new relationships and live with our new partners. In my case, my DP has no children of her own and treats mine like he is her own. In my ex's case, her DP has 3 children from a previous marriage to a man, and the kids share equal time with their parents. Not that a kid ever likes transitioning, but our son was so young when we split that he doesn't really complain about switching houses anymore. And, in a way, it probably helps him that the other kids also have to go back and forth between their parents. But now I'm pregnant (8 weeks) and this baby isn't going anywhere once it's born. We told DS last weekend and he is very excited! But one of his first questions was if the baby will go with him when he goes to my ex's house. He understood that the baby will not go, but didn't react with much emotion. I understand that right now it's still conceptual, so I want to make sure I do whatever I can to make him ok with the changes, especially the fact that when he goes the baby stays.
How have you all dealt with this, or seen it dealt with well? I'm hoping to make this as normal and easy for him as I can, so I'm thinking about it pretty early on. Thanks!