I posted some of the gory details in the low income support thread but I would like some advice on how to proceed. Here is the jist of the situation:
Back story, sister owes me 400$ and told me she would pay me back in May and then come May said she could not pay me back. She then refused my calls for the past 7 weeks. I was pretty upset, but sucked it up and left her a voicemail last week inviting her to my son's bday party this past weekend. She and her kids actually show at the party. She says she has a new bf and we talk okay during the party etc. Xdh gives ds a large amount of money in cash for his bday gift. I put it in my purse. I go about the party and then go to leave (it was at xdhs house) and the envelope with the money is gone. I immediately think it could be my nephew or my sister so i call her up and she is pretty calm about it and she surprise actually answers. I even accuse her of taking it etc. Fast forward the next day and I had told xdh, and one aunt also told ds his money was missing. I was so distraught. I talk to my sister in the morning as she said she was going to ask my nephew and I wait for her call. She does not call me< I call her. She said she confronted him and he ran off. We talked for a long time. I tell her I am going to file a police report. I tell her they may question her, I tell her they may fingerprint my purse I have no idea. Etc. I was using everything in the book to get the money back. Half thinking she took it....Still not sure. I ask her for nephews contact info and she never gives me his girlfriends number.I let her go, she calls back in 5 minutes and says she calls his gf's house and that my nephew admitted to taking it and that he brought it back to the house but she is at work now so cannot get it to me until the evening. Fine, we end the conversation and then she calls back later and says she had her other son count the money and there was only 300$. It was suppose to be 505$. Okay fine, maybe he kept some, long story short I only get 325$ of the money back. I still have no verbal confession from my nephew. I still do not know what happened to the rest of the money.
So I still do not know how to proceed. I am upset, I feel like because i have no actual confession I cannot rule out my sister. I feel like I need to let my other family members know exactly what happened so that they can protect themselves. I have a feeling my sister was lying about the situation. She is hard up for money and she is seeing this new guy i know nothing about. Both my nephew and sister have stolen in the past, i thought that they had straightened out but people change and can change back and can fool you.
SO what to do? I played the guilt trip so hard on my sister to get the money back and xdh asked if i would confront her about if she took it and i told him no, I would try to get the money back first then decide what to do, and i am shocked that i even got any money back but I did. I feel like I want to throw her whole family to the curb, which means i have to out her to my whole family and pretty much tell them that they have to choose between us. My other option is to stay silent and not attend family functions without explanation. Because some of the money is still missing and my sister swears my nephew said there was no more that was all, i am wondering if she just took some of it once he returned it? I haven't spent the money and I am just holding on to it not sure what to do.