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3rd child is 4 months. How should I proceed with PPD treatment?

post #1 of 5
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Ok, so here's my situation.  I have a daughter who will be 4 in September, an 18 month old son, and a 4 month old son.  I stay home with them and some days are just better than others.  I've been resentful towards my husband for being at work in the past after the first two babies.  This time is totally different.  I feel SO overwhelmed and stressed out.  I don't have ANY patience.  And my frustration boils over in my reactions towards my oldest.  Instead of being calm and explaining something to her, I freak out and am way too short with her.  I feel lots of guilt because I don't feel like I'm enjoying my kids while they are young, but all I want is for them to be bigger, so they'll rely on me less.  My OBGYN says that yes this is PPD when I went to see him just over a month ago, but he wanted me to give it time to pass.  Additionally, I started losing a lot more hair than in the past and actually developing bald spots.  In the past week, I've seen a Dermatologist to rule out a scalp condition and a regular Doctor for blood work, which came back normal.  I also have the Mirena IUD.  I just don't know what's going on or how best to handle things going forward.  Any advice is welcome.  I plan to get the Mirena removed this month and I'm debating starting medication that the regular Doctor has offered for the PPD.  I'm just scared to take something and become worse.  And part of me is still in denial that this even is PPD because I can't imagine anyone having 3 children in 3.5 years NOT being stressed out and overwhelmed. 

 

Thanks in advance for your help!

post #2 of 5

Forgive me while I yell at your doctor.  "Just give it time to pass"?!?  Translation:  "you've asked me for help, but I think you should suffer longer." 

 

I'm sorry mama.  He sucks.

 

It might be worth calling him back anyway, to tell him that you have waited long enough, that the effects on you and your family are intolerable, and you need a medication option and an urgent referral to a therapist NOW. 

 

On the medication:  I don't think you have to decide whether or not to take it yet.  Get the prescription, talk to a therapist, then decide.  Different people have different reactions to different antidepressants, so, IMO, if you're going to take them, you should be talking to a therapist or a psychiatrist or someone to check in and make sure you're doing okay, and help you either wean off or change up meds if that turns out to be necessary. 

 

I can certainly see how your situation is stressful, and that's probably not making things better.  PPD can be a really chicken-and-egg thing, where we can't tell what came first:  the sleep dep or the PPD, and did the sleep dep *cause* the PPD, or was it the other way around.  You can examine it at leisure later, right now, you need help.

post #3 of 5
Thread Starter 
Thanks for your support. I went today and got a script for lexapro and I'm getting the Mirena removed next week. I'm hoping to see some improvement soon!
post #4 of 5

Good luck!  I hope things are better soon.
 

post #5 of 5

hair loss can be a side effect of mirena.
 

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