I dont want a start a debate, but i dont agree that the main thing that WOHMs miss out on is sleep. Come on...
On the issue of lunchbreaks, or waiting in line,the other day, i bought tickets to go on a ferry/watertaxi. I was first in line to buy the tickets. But, since i have an active toddler to look after, i had to follow her around, along with my two older boys, and could not wait in line, In the meantime, the line filled up. I put myself at the front of the line in order to get on the boat once the boat arrived. Some people (without children), hissed and grumbled, like they had a better sense of ethics than i did. I told them i had bought the tickets before them, but that unlike them, i didnt have the privilege of waiting in line. (i did not mention, that because unlike them, i was an active duty taking care of 3 children right then)
See, thats a job in itself. Thats what i am referring to. Thats not being a martyr, thats saying it how it is and sticking up for myself in a non child friendly world where everything revolves around the single adult.
Being a WOHM i imagine would be difficult. Noone said it wasnt. But it has certain advantages, depending on the type of job, for eg, getting some time to just focus on an activity without interruption(maybe you get to go on facebook?), maybe some credit for the work you do, some respect (the paycheck as well of course). But it isnt logistically possible to be the same as someone who is at home with their children. In my opinion, PRESENCE, is part of parenting in itself.
Everyone has their challenges. I would like mothering to be valued for what it is, hardwork, but a labor of joy.
The truth is, i feel a bit sorry for someone who has to be away from their young/or even older children for large segments of the day. Thats really why i dont want to debate the subject too much. Even as finacnially strapped as i am, and with all the difficulties of sahm'ing, and with all the work i do that noone helps me with, i feel more privileged. No Martyr here, i feel completely blessed, dishevelledly blessed perhaps. I like that our family stays together. I dislike how the norm in our society that values money before all else separates families on a constant basis.
Thankyou for your interesting comments voila and mamaofthree.