A bit of background: Our oldest (10) is terrified of anything to do with doctors. This a by product of, frankly, incompetent doctors when he was little that cased him a lot of unneeded pain. A lot of (we found out later) medically unjustified testing and harsh handling by the staff that I would call abusive or at least excessive. We found a pediatrician that he trusted, eventually. The doctor always told us at check ups "Don't worry, they're baby teeth", "Everything looks fine". The doctor retired, and it's been a struggle to get Our Oldest to trust another doctor and/or find a doctor that is willing to have patience with him. He doesn't have a mental issue, it's just that doctors--do to what he went through--horrify him.
He's been excellent about brushing his teeth: Three times a day, fluoride at night, mouthwash in the morning. Nothing rotted or unusual.
We're planning on taking him to see my dentist this summer. We've talked the situation over with him, and he seems to understand. And we've already discussed that if there's any work to be done, it'll just have to be done and we'll have to discuss with the dentist the best way to keep our son calm.
This is his first go around with a dentist. He's ten, and we're worried that that might justification be to call CPS on us.
I know legally, we shouldn't have anything to worry about--there's no law that says you have to take your kids to a dentist. We hear horror stories from people around here about people getting CPS called on them for nothing more than their kids being out in the yard and making to much noise, or someone calling them cause a kid is out of school sick for several days. It's worrying us that this might cause a red flag.