I'm trying really hard to make my kid into a responsible adult, so I want him to put his laundry away, etc. But Oh. My. God. I love him, but he's such a scatterbrain and it takes him a gajillion hours to fold three shirts. He knows how to do it and can do it, he just gets distracted by a million things. So doing chores side-by-side with him is something I really, really struggle with, even though I want him to learn that running a house takes a bit of work.
mama he is just 5 years old. he still has a LOT of time to learn.
i think children that age ARE scatterbrained. and when they hit puberty OMG even worse. hormones do a number on their memory.
i did not insist with chores too much with dd doing them side by side. that would have driven me CRAZY.
instead i give her a day to do her 'chores' which she kinda liked doing. starting the laundry and then putting them away.
doing the dishes. setting the table.
i was never involved in her chores.
however i was involved in the cooking. dd loves the independence of cooking and has been cooking full but simple dinners since she was 5. even now she does it. i'd be there for guidance and cutting stuff she struggled with like onions.
i dont use chores as a sign of responsible adult. i dont expect dd to do stuff. but i make a request since we are a single family and she does have the right to say no. however she never says no but chooses a different time.
dd instead shows me responsiblity by following boundaries. she calls me if she is going to be late coming home from playdate. or coming home from school.
now that she is 10 i verbalize how much i hate doing housework but i like a clean house so i do it. i want her to learn its not a pleasant experience for me either but it has to be done.