How well do you have to know someone before you let your child spend the night at their house? Do you have to meet the kid's parents first?
In the past, my rule has been no sleep overs unless I know the parents fairly well, like a friend at work or someone I got to know through the school after school day care program
But now that my DD is getting older, - 14, she's making friends whose parents I don't know or come in contact with. She wants to spend the night at their house or vise versa and I don't know if I'm being overprotective with my rule or not.
I know I must sound like a clueless parent, but I was raised in a religion that was pretty cult like in nature so I don't know how the average parent screens who their kids hang out with.
The only people I was allowed to associate with were kids in the same religion. I went to public school, but I was not allowed to hang out with any kids that weren't members of the religion after school. Everyone knew everyone else's parents so you didn't have to worry about whether you knew the parents or things like that.
The opportunity to review my rule has come up recently because my D14 has made a friend at summer camp and she wants her to spend the night at my house. I don't know this child, I don't know who her parents are and I don't feel comfortable letting some kid I've never met before spend the night in my home. I want my D14 to make friends, but I'm not sure if I'm being silly about this or not.