I don't even know what I want from this thread....probably a magic wand......
My little girl is so precocious I think I made a HUGE mistake by keeping her home for summer break instead of sending her to some sort of day camp and it is to late to mend that. So I feel stressed to the max because I don't think we are meeting her needs for structure, socializing and just engaging her highly active brain.
She is 5 and so so smart and with it and I didn't realize how much school was doing for her this year until it was over and she was home and she had a little bit of a pre-school mental break down.
She had a really sad experience in the last two months of school which is another thread I wrote and you can read it if you want, I'm not going to go into it too deeply but she was being sexually antagonized by a peer and it has caused her some serious stress to the point of now questioning everything like if a person lifts up their shirt to scratch their tummy, is that ok? It is heart breaking but at the same time I am proud of her for being brave, asking me the questions etc. She is so honest and she comes to me with every little question and I value that.
On the flip side, this was one reason I wanted to keep her home this summer, give her space to decompress and regroup before heading back to school. I think I missed the mark because the lack of structure that I have in my day has not been a good fit for her and having me as her go to play-mate has not been good for me.
I do make play-dates but I am introverted so this is not an everyday thing, more like 1-2x a week thing. And this is not enough interaction for her. She likes to talk All. Day. Long. She does not play on her own. And I mean does. not. It is like a punishment to her to even suggest it. This is not new, she has always been like that but I guess I thought she had outgrown a lot of these things because with her in school I was seeing such a different kid after school and on weekends. Now I know that her social needs were being met, which they are not with her at home with me.
I feel bad. Even as I am writing this she is skipping in and out of the room telling me every little thing that flits through her head. If she plays something in the tub then she literally gets out of the tub to come tell me the 30 seconds of whatever it was, then gets back in. This ends up being her getting in and out of the tub like 20x.
I can't handle this level of interaction and I don't know what I expect anyone to say!
Next summer camp will be on the menu!