My husband has just joined the Army, as a helicopter repairer. We were trying to do it earlier, but he was a couple pound underweight so he was told to come back in two months (July). Now his departure date is set for October first. My due date is November 24th and he will be in basic training when I give birth. I have kind of been preparing for the possibility of that for a while, but now it's a sure thing. This is our first baby and today I have been thinking about how much it sucks that he won't be there.
So I was searching the web for stories of other mothers who had to give birth without husbands around and I came across the article. When I read the title it made me angry, especially because this is an OB who is a MAN!! But as I read on it kind of made sense to me.
Don't get me wrong. If I could choose I would have my husband there. But I can't. And this actually does make sense to me. And I find it a little comforting.
Any thoughts? Do you think that having a man in the delivery room hinders labor?
As for the mental health of the man being able to cope with it, I don't even care. If I have to go through the emotional AND physical trauma of actually giving birth I don't think I have any sympathy for a man who "can't handle it". And seriously. I don't care how stable he says those men were, a good husband doesn't run out on his wife who just gave birth because it freaked him out a little. It freaks me out a lot and I am the one who actually has to do it!
Oh and is there anyone here who has or will be giving birth without their partner present?