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post #41 of 124

I always felt like I wasn't AP enough for Mothering lol. I'm not mainstream enough for other forums though.

 

DS plays video games and watches TV everyday. In fact, we all watch a ton of TV. My grandfather and dad both worked in television, so we aren't ever giving up TV.

We occasionally eat fast food. 

We started selectively vax-ing, but ended up fully vax-ing.

Since DS is obsessed with Legos and Playmobil, we have SO many plastic toys.

We don't eat organic because we can't afford it.

I gave birth at a hospital.

Had multiple U/S when I was pregnant because they thought something might be wrong with his kidneys.

We always used disposable diapers while we were traveling.

post #42 of 124
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Nightwish View Post

tsk-tsk

 

You should read this thread and follow the example of some real AP mamas winky.gif

 

http://www.mothering.com/community/t/289877/the-im-crunchier-than-thou-thread
 

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Originally Posted by Moonridden View Post

That thread is amazeballs.

 

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Originally Posted by dauphinette View Post

"....and I live in a hollowed out gourd."

LOL!

 

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Originally Posted by PrimordialMind View Post


This thread is unbelievably hilarious!! I havent laughed that hard in awhile. I had to add my own crunchy comment winky.gif

 

We should do a thread like that and see what we come up with - without peeking at that thread! lol.gif

 

 

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Hi everyone! I am a brand new member and you are cracking me up! So glad I signed up! It's nice to know we are all really somewhere in the middle. As I drive through both Starbucks and McDonald's tomorrow, I will do so with a bigger smile ...and a lighter heart. And I will rest easy knowing that just because I sometimes blast the radio and pretend I can't hear my little chatterboxes, that doesn't mean I am not a loving mother. Thanks, mamas!

 

Welcome naturemami3. You're in good company! love.gif

post #43 of 124

We should totally do a funny thread mentioned by Nightwish

post #44 of 124

. . . not being interested in AP at all, whatsoever? And not feeling guilty about it, either?

post #45 of 124

Second to all said. And sometimes I've put both my babes (now 4 and 5mo old) in their cribs to cry a bit before they fall asleep. Second one not as bad, but my first one was a terrible sleep fighter and 5-10 minutes of crying would sometimes help him get to sleep. He'd be so miserable. I think this is the first time I've admitted that. :) It feels/felt like the right choice for us. And I'd never let him go more than 10 minutes. My li'l guy isn't qutie a fighter, but sometimes I let him cry a bit, so I don't have to nurse him down which is the main way he prefers to go to sleep. ugh. So tough.

post #46 of 124

Fun! I use Sposies after 2 . . . And I refuse to pay more than $6 a pack. I usually get Natural ones from an OG discount store, but if not, I am not above occasional Target brand.

 

I have Ultrasounds. Last baby I had 5. And my own doppler. Being a Pregnancy Loss mama made me jumpy.

 

Waaaaay too much computer in our lives @ the moment. No TV but plenty of screen time, still.

 

I use Compostable Paper Plates and right now, unfortunately we live on a Fluoridated water supply. I don't drink or cook with Fluoride but we still have to bathe with it, etc.

 

I take my kids to Western MDs. I am an Herbalist, but I don't just do Chiro & Naturopathy. They have never had Abx, but I still like to feel like I did my part to get them checked out, official style. We do NOT vax, but I am considering just one 'in case I am wrong' DTaP sometimes. My next baby is scheduled to be born in a hospital, though I am not 100% on that. I did have a Homebirth but it was with an OB.

 

That is pretty much it, we are pretty NL/AP. I have a degree in Chemistry, so I am NOT going to allow any chemicals into my home or food supply if I can help it. We do eat Organic because of Social Justice as well as Chemistry. We live near a factory I hate right now, but we are upwind of it and are seeking alternatives!

post #47 of 124

We vax, we eat fast food, we have done time outs in the past (but we are working on not doing that), our oldest actually competed in natural (no make-up) pageants (however this is something else we cut out because we ultimately decided that even though the emphasis was natural, it still sends a bad message to girls..), we have too much TV and too much sugar in our lives, we swim in the public (chlorinated) pool, I had ultrasounds with all of my pregnancies (though we did have midwives and natural births)....that's all I can think of right now. lol.

post #48 of 124

I did not even really know about attachment parenting..I read about it briefly but ....Dr. Sears books were my BIBLE.  we co slept we breastfed, we also did specific vacinationations.

 

I often tell people we pretty much mesh a little bit from several types of parenting techniques into OUR parenting technique.

 

We watch tv.

 

we eat out more than i care to admit

 

We also had to supplement with formula early on. 

 

We also have had to use more consequences in discipline...I wouldn't call those times posiitive discipline but she is getting older...

post #49 of 124

Love this. Let's see...

 

My kids watch cartoons almost every single morning while I drink coffee and plan our day.

 

Had one in the hospital, ultrasounds with both.

 

Occasionally I feed them Taco Bell, and often I feed them frozen yogurt with candy on top.

 

At least once a month I stay out late to have dinner and drinks with my friends and let my husband handle bedtime alone. My kids are now 2 and 4, but I did this when they were younger too. I (very occasionally) have to travel for work, and it's nice for the three of them to know that dad's capable of taking care of them alone, even at night. 

 

I weaned both of my kids before they were three, even though they didn't seem ready. With the first child, I had been nursing them both together for 6 months and I was SO. DONE. with tandem, having trouble producing enough for the youngest and not ready to supplement. I weaned my second child at two because she, like her brother, didn't show any signs of weaning, or even cutting back, and I was growing resentful and annoyed with night-nursing a preschooler. I didn't want our nursing relationship to turn into something less wonderful than it had always been, for either of us.

 

I pay someone to care for my children while I work. And I like it.  

post #50 of 124
Rocknmama - my first child NEEDED a period of time which she would cry a little before sleep. It took us a few months before we realized this because she wouldn't settle at all. She'd be tired, she'd nod off in our arms and the minute we put her down she'd cry for a few minutes and then sleep. It didn't matter if it was in our bed with us, in her crib or somewhere else altogether. And she couldn't sleep in our arms all the time either.

Once we realized it *was* her way of self soothing after our day, things were easier. I've heard of other babies who were the same. And it did take awhile for me to recognize it as a need she had because I thought if she was crying she needed something. Her need was a small cry as a self soothing technique. At first I felt guilty but when I had tried everything else and finally realized that it was what she needed it made things easier. You are right, it's a hard thing to admit because it goes against how we feel as mother's but when we embrace and recognize our kids needs then it makes the decision easier smile.gif

My second was totally different, she can fall asleep to a song or two and has since she was little smile.gif
post #51 of 124

Well it looks like I'm in good company here!  I just do what works well for us. That's definitely closest to AP, but not totally:

 

One daughter had vaccine reactions and is very selectively vaxed; the other daughter is fully vaxed.

I have always used disposables without guilt.

"Treats" aren't very rare... too much sugar.

Discipline is louder than it should be.

I'm not against Western medicine; it has worked for us when naturopathic hasn't.

We have too much "stuff." 

post #52 of 124
Love this!

My husband and I yell too much and dont spend enough time with the kids. We do way too much TV, too much iPad, way too much sugar and fast food and are starting my 4 year old in public preschool this fall. I was homeschooled and its definitely not for me. Once my kids are both in school I'll be working to afford my starbucks every day.
post #53 of 124

I drive a SUV.

My 11-month-old sleeps in a crib in her own room.

I diaper my baby in disposables and use disposable wipes.

I occasionally use a Teflon pan.

My husband's clothes get washed in Tide.

Sometimes I use bleach.

I go through lots of rolls of paper towels.

My baby has quite a few plastic toys.

My husband & I take VERY long showers.

I don't recycle peanut butter jars because it is too difficult to rinse them.

I allow my baby to watch Sesame Street on my phone while I clip her nails.

post #54 of 124
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Originally Posted by treegardner View Post

I always felt like I wasn't AP enough for Mothering lol. I'm not mainstream enough for other forums though.

DS plays video games and watches TV everyday. In fact, we all watch a ton of TV. My grandfather and dad both worked in television, so we aren't ever giving up TV.
We occasionally eat fast food. 
We started selectively vax-ing, but ended up fully vax-ing.
Since DS is obsessed with Legos and Playmobil, we have SO many plastic toys.
We don't eat organic because we can't afford it.
I gave birth at a hospital.
Had multiple U/S when I was pregnant because they thought something might be wrong with his kidneys.
We always used disposable diapers while we were traveling.


I feel the same way!!! That Im not AP enough for Mothering, but other forums I feel like the crunchiest.
Lets see....
-we selectively vac
-I supplement with formula due to supply issues
-drive an SUV
-we don't eat 100% organic
-some cloth, some sposies
-had an HBAC but last baby was planned hospital birth and I liked it!
-I yell.
-I never gave much thought to wooden vs. plastic toys. We have too many of both.

Im glad to read this. It makes Mothering more welcoming.
post #55 of 124

I have some too. :) 

 

I let my 5 y/o have what I consider to be quite a lot of screen time. I have a toddler and when he takes his nap, I have to nap, too. I can't stay awake no matter how I try. My 5 y/o will get into trouble, so I let her use my iPhone or her laptop for the entire two hours to either watch Netflix documentaries or play Minecraft PE. I love when she plays Minecraft, actually. When I put her to bed at night, I go in my phone and look at all of the delightful little things she has built. <3

 

Also, I take my kids to McDonalds about once a month as a treat. Really it's more like I was in town and didn't have time to go home and that was convenient, but my kiddo thinks it's as good as a birthday present so there you go.

 

I give candy as rewards. *ducks flying eggs* I know I shouldn't but after years of trying every single other AP/NCP method, this is the only one that works with her. I buy organic gummy candies or fruit leathers and if she has been quiet during nap time and plays her games without waking up the baby, she gets some candy afterwards. 

 

I sometimes raise my voice. And I sometimes catch myself saying things I should not like "what is WONG with you?!!!" When the older one hurts the baby on purpose. The last, at least, is rare. :(

 

And I'm against buying China-made but I have made exceptions on some occasions if a toy is particularly beneficial in my opinion (like Legos) or if it is a book or if it is cloth diapers and I can't find enough used. I feel really horrible about it every time I do it, though, so at least I'm feeling remorse. :(

post #56 of 124

I bribe my daughter with tv in exchange for her brushing my hair.

post #57 of 124

i love this!

 

I let my 6 y/o...

stay up late during school breaks and holidays

eat Chicken in a Biscuit crackers

watch Grease & Big Bang Theory

listen to Macklemore's Thrift Shop

 

and i HATE playing pretend games, tea party, and store.

post #58 of 124

I had 2 hospital births and chose epidurals both times.

 

After a long stretch of pricing natural-woven baskets for organizing our crap, I'll go on a plastic-buying binge, buying all the storage I need and more for the price of one basket at JoAnn fabrics.

 

Change above sentence, substituting "organic, fair trade, hand woven kitchen towels" and "non-organic, slave labor grocery store kitchen towels" for "baskets" and "plastic".  Oh, and the factory outlet jeans made in Bangladesh, cheaper than thrift store jeans.

 

I live where I can have chickens, a huge garden and acres of forest to walk through, but to live here I drive waaaay too many miles.  Thankfully, my car gets good gas mileage.  However we are outgrowing it, it's getting to 200,000 miles really fast (did I mention how many miles I drive?) so I am contemplating a minivan or Highlander.  Ouch.

 

We have a lot of toys.  A lot of toys!

 

We eat boatloads of sugar.  I buy organic sugar, but a lot of the treats we buy don't use it.  I looooove sugar!  luxlove.gif  Oh, and I have and use food coloring.  

 

We eat fast food about once a week or so.  And, yes, the girls get a pop or "lemonade".

 

I eat way more meat than I should.  But I have an excuse-- I'm allergic to most vegetarian sources of protein.

 

I can be tyrant.  

 

I let the girls watch TV (videos) and shows on the internet.  But we're unschoolers, so I get to do that and still be crunchy.orngtongue.gif

 

One show they love is the Lone Ranger.  Gunshooting.  Fist fights.  Stereotypes.  They love it.  I also let them watch a fair amount of violence (LOTR, The Hobbit, Kung Fu Panda).  But, being unschoolers, we get to do that and still be crunchy.  2whistle.gif

post #59 of 124

But Cynthia, How FAR do you drive that SUV?

post #60 of 124

Oh jeez....I'm not sure I can list the things. lol.gif

 

we have had TV dinners the last two nights.

My baby is currently in a huggies disposeable

when my husband gets behind on the recycling and it gets annoying I grab a trash bag and clean it all up. Sheepish.gif

We are a tech house....video games, iPad, iPod, computers the whole shebang.

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