ugh sorry i wasnt meaning to be condescending. i wasnt even thinking of you when i wrote this. its more about me and how MY own experience has affected my reaction.
my response to this thread is so different now as a mother of a 10 year old than how it would have been had dd been 4 now.
i do not agree this thread has taken on 'a bit of a turn'. i think its right on the path. even in her reply OP is questioning and trying to figure out what is appropriate. she IS trying to figure out the answer. she seems open to all possiblities.
i was a big fan of Gavin's book till i realised his advice was spot on for the younger kids, but not so much for older kids.
yes i am absolutely with you. bullying is not taken seriously enough - in middle and high school in general.
but i have found for kids younger than 10 some mothers are too quick to jump to conclusions. i was one of them too when dd was a toddler till i grew up and discovered what i thought was bullying behaviour was actually typical age appropriate stuff.
I'm the mom to a 16 yr old as well as younger children. And we have a "creepy kid" on our street too. At first i felt sorry for him. The nice normal neighbors across the street had banned him from THEIR house after he asked their son to "suck my...." and the mom of the kid said oh he picked that up from school (never mind the step father in the home who is on the sex offender list)....my boys decided they LOVED this kid. He started coming over. But then i noticed this kid lies all the time, right to my face (no little boy, i can tell you arent 11) ...follows my 11 yr old daughter around making her uncomfortable and will not leave her alone even when she is very direct "GO AWAY"....my boys started acting out a little bit (being more defiant than usual, more sassy) and kept defending these crazy stories the kid was telling them (that he was born in a tree, that he was born with gold teeth)....he wasnt always nice when he was over either. But i continued to feel sorry for him until he started saying inappropriate/sexualized stuff to my new 8 yr old foster daughter. Not cool. So he can't play over anymore. I feel sorry for the kid but im not putting MY kids in a bad position just so that kid has someone to play with.