I have a five year old cuddle bug who is steadily turning more into a cuddle monster. And normally this would be a good thing except when it's not and it has been driving me insane. She's always been a high needs kind of kid. She spent the entirety of her first year alive wrapped onto Mommy and the subsequent 4 years trying to stay as close to Mommy as possible.
We still cosleep and we're homeschooling now so she's around me. all. the. time. When I'm home (and I most often am) she wants 110% of my attention. She always wants me to sit right next to her at all times and her idea of a great day is sitting on Mommy's lap all the time. Which, again, would be great if I didn't have other things to do. But she's never been accepting of that and puts up a hell of a fit if I try to get up. If I try to sit in my computer chair (I work from home so I have to), she'll toss herself bodily onto the chair and generally has to be forcibly removed. We ask nicely and she refuses. We've got a three strikes and you're out policy and she takes it to the limit and then some.
And she's the most affectionate little thing ever. She's very sweet but sometimes... I don't know, it's like she loses it. It's not "Mommy, can I kiss you?" it's more like kiss you over and over again. Three kisses is cute; thirty kisses while I'm protesting, "No, that's enough now" with her resembling an alien face hugger is not. Hugs, same deal. There's hugging, cuddling, and glomping -- cute. Then there's the getting a running start, full force morning GLOMP which would be cute maybe the first and second time, but three times into it, when you're already hurting and you've asked her to stop, is so not cute and can be pretty painful, especially when you've got a chronic illness. (I've got lupus and there are days when I'm in severe pain.) She'll just keep ramming in, more and more, screaming, "Hugs! Hugs! Hugs!"
She has been diagnosed with ADHD (combined) and has very poor impulse control, worse than an average child her age. The hyperactivity is definitely a factor but the fact that she just can't seem to stop herself when we've asked her to is bad. What's worse it that these are signs of affection. I can tell she's confused. We've tried explaining to her that kissing and hugging and cuddling is fine but when you start to hurt someone or they say no, you need to stop. But she just doesn't get it!
This morning I had to yell at her because she did one of her flying hug back tackles from behind as I was kneeling, stepping on my leg and hurting me pretty bad. She was so hurt that I yelled at her that she was crying about it an hour later in the car. I know that she was just trying to show me that she loves me but she just can't seem to do it in calmer ways. I felt so bad, like the worst mom in the world. :( I hate yelling at her but redirecting this child is like trying to redirect a gale force wind. It just doesn't work. Positive reinforcement for gentle hugs only work so much before she gets the urge to be aggressive with her affection again and it's like she's forgotten it all :( He~~lp.