It is very "extreme" and really wearing me out.
I'm a SAHM and my son has always been a mama's boy. But once in a while he was okay to spend time with daddy.
The older he got, the more he was disliking daddy's company.
Now we are at the point where he never wants to be held by his dad. Lately he has even been yelling at him and kicking him when he tried to hold him. Occasionally he will pet daddy's head, but other than that he wants nothing to do with him.
My husband is not as silly and playful as me. He is rather "quiet company", but I don't see him doing anything horribly wrong.
My son also always wanted to be held a lot. As a newborn he required someone to walk him around the whole day, he hated standing still or sitting down.
I held him all the time throughout the first year (or sometimes daddy then). He would hardly ever play by himself really. But when he started walking at 12 months old, he got more and more independent. I still held him a lot, but I was able to do a few things around the house while he explored. Until a little over a month ago, he was pretty independent and balanced. Rarely threw tantrums.
Then he started waking ever 1-2 hours at night (and nursing) and staying up after waking. It takes lots of rocking to get him back to sleep (in our bed).
He now also wants to be held ALL THE TIME. I am not even kidding. He won't let me make food, eat, take a shower, he is attached 24/7. A couple of times I had to let him scream so I could eat or get dressed, and he got so worked up I fear he will scream until he passes out.
He never liked the stroller so to other moms surprise, I don't even take it a anywhere, and instead carry him all day.
My back is hurting from holding him all day, my arms hurt...I hardly get any sleep..one day I almost passed out in the hallway while holding him.
We tried having him in a room with daddy, but he will cry hysterically and not stop.
Plus whenever I don't answer his request to be held all day, he will be fussy non stop, aggressive, not affectionate...I am at wits end.
I used to get told what a "great child" he is, now everyone criticizes my parenting, breastfeeding and co-sleeping .
What is going on and what can we do? We could really use some advice.